i'll have to agree we should have consulted my grandmother about this first...however, there is supposed to be an unconditional love amongst families from which no hostility should be brought forth in a situation as such. I believed that seeing that myself, brother and father are so passionate about something such as QDM would bring joy into the heart's of familiy members, sadly though, I was greatly mistaken. As for it being her land, yes its her, however, the land is to be my Father's in the coming years and it would be his now had his sister not said "Mom, if he gets something I should get something too right now" so our name is not "officially" on the land...I don't know, I wasn't really looking for advice when it comes to matters of the family and I'd like to thank those of you who said you've dealt with situations like this before. As far as saying "elder deserves respect," respect is earned mutually. There are a lot of elders who I do not repsect one bit due to their unethical actions or spiteful ways, does that make me less of a person? I believe not. I guess I just thought that our passion for QDM would be repsected and accepted by our family....the end