Sounds like ou and mom need to join forces and present a unified front. All too often, one (1) parent wants to be the child's friend and becomes a little lax in areas of discipline. I'm not implying that's your situation, but I think it's time for some face to face intervention with mom. Of course he's going to stand his ground, he's 16 and knows everything about the world he wants to step into. Good luck with your situation. By the way, I believe this to be the appropriate place for this topic. It puts everyone's season into perspective.