Difference is guys.....
Lisa and I have a very strong relationship. We were watching a re-run some friends sent us from a TV show.....and they were documenting the things that go into people having a secure relationship.
One of the things was......being able to share with your spouse when you find someTHING about someone else....OR...SOMEONE else...."attractive". Though I love my wife with all my heart....this is "human nature" (finding others "attactive"). I can share these ideas freely with Lisa.....as long as I do so in a non[threatening and non-hurtful manner.
To me....the bigger issue would be keeping these things to yourself.
Just a thought....
Now...back to "nothingness".