Only dependence. And I must admit I DID miss your point.

In the case of my son, though.....I'm not going to wash his clothes every time he decides he's going. I agree with you that that wouldn't teach him a thing......(only dependence). I think I can teach him the most by just telling him when I'm going....then shutting up. He's old enough to decide for himself if this is something he wants to do more or less of.

I just see the generation he's in.....with the biggest "Entitlement" mentality of any group I've ever seen. He wants everything given to him. I just can't do it.....with good conscious.

Kids love to drive cars when they get old enough. Do you let 'em go do that without mowing the lawn.....keeping their room clean......picking up after themselves....etc...? Or...do we just give 'em the keys.....with no rules or pre-requisite responsibilites that must be met, beforehand? I won't. Call me a hard-ass. I'm trying to teach him something.