What a coincidence!
I have a 9mm, and I need a 5'9'' - 125lbs lady.
Maybe we could work something out. Too funny.

Seriouslythough, it really does come down to fit.
You won't have any trouble with a 9mm as far as recoil goes, and all but the biggest double stacks should be close to the right size for your hand.

As far as a recomendation for a specific make or model goes, it completely depends on what your intended use of the gun will be. The brands you mentioned are all good, just different.

You will also need to decide on the type of action you want (SA, DA, or DAO). You will also have to make decisions about things like a having a magazine disconnect safety, the ability to execute a second strike on a misfred round, manual safety lever, mag capacity, light/laser rail, and a bunch more things.

If you are not in a rush, look at the entire field. It's full of good stuff.