RE: Handgun caliner for wife?
The SP-101 with a 3" barrel and .357 mag rounds is a real handful.
While the gun is a good solid firearm, it can and does bite pretty good with hot loads.
I would recomend something just a bit heavier and a load no hotter than a .38+P. This will keep the recoil to a minimum but still give you plenty of "oomph" if she needs to use it.
Stay away from semi autos. Unless she is proficent at clearing feed jams under high stress situations, a revolver is the best choice.
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