Farmchick,
This was meant to be humerousand true at the same time. This method has worked for me many times. Mostly as a way of getting a foot in the door, so to speak. After a friendship has started, the work help and things you speak of are good ways to cement the relationship. It isn't just give a gift and hunt. It's just part of the equation. To me, you sound a bit bitter, kind of like your man left you holding the bag. If it is too much for you, maybe you should sell it and try something a bit less stressfull. If I came to your door and recieved the bitterness you give off, I'd go somewhere else where the people were a tad more cheerful. I hope things get better for you.