My girlfriend has been shooting her 7mm Rem Mag with loads that I have put together for her. They consist of a 150 gr Rem Core-Lokt bullet and 60 grains of IMR 4831. She had started to complain about the recoil a while back so I thought that I would load up a smaller grain bullet and little less powder for her, but decided against it because she is going to go Elk hunting with her friend and friend's father. I wanted her to get used to shooting this load. Mind you, she is only 5'4" and 110 lbs. I bought and installed a recoil pad but her groups went to ****. Took that off and bought her a shoulder mounted recoil pad. She can now shoot 40 rounds in an afternoon without any pain or grouping problem.

So....managing the recoil can be done in a number of ways.