Best way to go is with a .22 then to a .410 has the kick but still not that much. Then to the 20 gauge. And then start with the rifles. And the 22 and .410 will teach how to group and use the sights, And also the .410 will teach the differnce between slugs and buckshot, even if u wont hunt with a shotgun, still good to have the knowledge down. I would say for rifle .223 dosnt really kick, i shoot our AR-15 with one hand.