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Old 11-09-2005 | 05:44 AM
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OK I am not sure where to start here.

Does your wife eat the meat? If so, tell her it is was to save money on groceries that she can use for something else.

Do you watch the boys, so she can do something? If so tell her that you watch them while she does thing, it is only fair that you get to do things as well.

So she does not work, you work, do you work alot. My guess is she may e feeling insecure and that she does not get enough time with you or she just wants to be a nag.

Did she know you hunted when you married her? If so was she like this from the beginning or just recently. If it is just recently,then there may be more to it, than your going hunting. I am not sure what age you both are, but she could be going through the change or going through something and just wants you around. Women go through things like this alot. Iknow I do, but then again I am a 31 yr old going through the change...lol

I would sit down with her and tell her you love her, you love your kids, you do everything you can for them, you work, you do her honey-dos, put on the table everything you do. Then tell her that you also love hunting. (remember this is coming from a girl here) Tell her that their is no way the hunting replaces her (even if it might, do not let her know that). That hunting is your way of letting off steam. It is the only time of year that you get to go and be with yourself and get some time alone and you enjoy. Tell her it is not fair that she takes that from you. Just when you are talking to her, make sure she understand you love her, but that marriage is a 2 way street you give and take. You give all year long, she takes (don't work it that way, could start a fight) but that it is now your turn to take. There has to be a compromise somewhere. Shoot, get a babysiter and go camp out with her, she may enjoy it. I know you guys do not like romantics, but make the night romantic for her, if it is just the two of you.

Luckly my husband married someone who likes to hunt more than he does and fish. I count down the days to hunting and then I want to go everyday, although we can't, but I want to go everyday. last year he got tired of going so much. He does not have to do anything. I can go to my stand alone, come out at dark alone, kill the deer, track the deer, I am a better tracker, skin it, process it, you name I cna do it. I think he is a pretty darn lucky guy.

Now I have read so much, I can't remember who this was, but the one who chose or was going to chosoe hunting over his wifes funeral...WRONG. I know you love hunting, I share the passion with you. But thinking the guy is dead and you do not like funerals, is not the way to think. You should be thinking. Wow, my wife dad has died, she needs me. The one who said the funeral was for the loved one, that is so true. She needs you more now, than ever. As much as I love hunting, and my husband loves it and as much as I love my husband, if a family member died in my family and he chose hunting over going to support me, by the time he got home, there would an ad in the paper for his truck, the locks on the doors changed and his clothes in a pile on our dirt rd. To be honest, if it was opposite and I did that, I would expect the same thing.

Now I do not if you wanted to hear a womens side to this, but I hope I have given some useful info, if not oh well. Sorry.

I wish you luck.
Kim
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