I tell you what, it isn't about loving first then marrynig or marrying first than loving, it's about constantly and consistently doing things to GROW your love for the person. Just like any sport, the more you practice, the better it gets. You have to make an effort to get to know that person better each and every day, some people think that after a while there is nothing left to learn, but it isn't true, if you look for things, you'll find them. I can honestly say that since the wedding planning stress is gone away and we are back to a normal playing field where I can focus everything on him, I love him even more than I did when we were first dating... I am starting to get the butterflies back when I think about him or when he touches me or kisses me, it is the most awesome feeling in the world. Love takes work, it isn't always easy, and marriage definitely is no stroll through the daisies. You have put effort into keeping it healthy, energetic, spontaneous and fun.

Don't ever let yourselved get into a monotonous pattern, always have that little bit of spontaneaity in your relationship, just a little will go a long way. Do things together frequently, like... HUNTING! It is an excellent time to be together and enjoy nature and each other at the same time, you also will make some awesome, unforgettable memories.

I wish the best of luck to all of you who are about to take the plunge, keep your significant other as your best friend at all times and you will do just fine. Okay, just my words of advice, I've been through an unhappy marriage as well, and experience is the best mentor, I learned from that what NOT to do...