If an Auto is what you want the Glocks are okay. I wouild look into a G19 I think that would be the compact 9mm if I am not mistaken and that will have a smaller grip. I don't like the grip on the large frame. the Sig Compacts have a good grip. Even better when you add Houge Finger-grove grips!

I would also think about a revolver. I too know women that perfer a revolver, I think it is a a psycolgical thing with the slide on the Semi-autos. Rvolvers are easy to operate and go bang when you pull the triger.Small revolvershave pretty snappy recoil so I wouldsuggest going with a mid to largeframe.The gun will be heavier but it will help to control the recoil!

good luck to youandlet us know what you end up going with!