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...would leave their significant other if that person consistently nagged about hunting? (ie, never being around during fall and winter) and, how many people here have done it?

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i've never been married, not exactly old enough. but i have broken up with a girl because she wanted me to stop because she was against hunting and such. she thought she was more important than my family background. well she was wrong;)

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I had my wife throw all my bowhunting stuff in the fire and now she is X #2. A man has to stand his ground!!! God I miss that bow.[:@]

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no but mymom likes to think of some project for my dad to do around october[:@] and hell yea iwould if youv met me you would know how much i love hun:Dting

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I would probably lay down some ground rules before I even started going out with the women because if you dont your just asking for trouble, and yes I would leave her because hunting is something I love and you cant take that away from me, I would be incomplete w/o it.

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You got to lay down the rules before you get serious. When I went to get married (32 yrs ago) I told the girl friend that she could pick the date, with two exceptions, not in the summer it's too hot to wear a suit then, not in the fall that is hunting season. We are still together . I guess she got the hint right from the start. She chose a spring wedding but changed her mind and we got hitched January 12/73

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yeah since the girl i spoke of above i've had conversations with girls before i ask them out to make sure they either like it or don't have a problem with it. a girl i'm talking to now loves hunting and does herself:D. it's great i think i'm gonna have to ask her out.

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ask her out fast.....girls who hunt are a rare breed.:D

thankfully my husband hunts but he knows that hunting comes first over everything but God.....so far it hasn't been a big problem.

if i ever have divorced the next man will have to hunt and be as addicted as me or it'll NEVER happen...not even a lil.

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yeah that's what i've found out.

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The first year we started going out together I shot my first buck. A sweet 8 pointer. She was appaled looking at it hanging in my garage...and then said.."I'll help you skin it out so the taxidermist has something good to work with." I married her a year later. It's been 18 years...and I know I got a keeper.

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You sure do have a keeper. Gotta find me a women like that.:D

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thats why i dumped my b/f. City Boys these days

Chic

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I dont know where you live but here everyone hunts. When deer season rolls around the school is half empty (on the days im actually there). And thats not just guys.

As for the original question...yeah. i'd dump her real fast. If she can't except hunting then she can't except me. :D

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thought that I would get one of two responses here. one being that what everyone here has said, the other would have been marriage above all else. I have been married for seven years and have a little girl that is nine months old today. I met my wife in san diego when I was in the navy. she never dated anyone that hunted until me. I didn't do much hunting when I was in san diego until I met my best friend. we hunted coyotes, bobcats, varmints if you will. I came home about a week each year bowhunting and did remarkably well. my wife thought that hunting season was only that long. I don't recall ever telling her it was longer, maybe a mistake on my part. now that I live in nw virginia, I hunt quite a bit. deer, turkey, varmints, you name it, because that is what I did when I lived in pa before the navy. I dated one girl that was a vegetarian for some time, but she thought it was pretty neat that I did hunt. she didn't particurally like it, but she got along with it. I have ditched women that didn't like hunting, but with a wife, I suppose that is a bit different. I have only been out hunting twice this calandar year, and it is killing me. I went once for turkey, and once for whistlepigs. my wife thinks that I am neglecting my little one because I want to go hunting and fishing (I haven't been fishing ALL year, and it is killing me.). she is a stay at home mom and I have a rather demanding job that occupies me for fifty or more hours a week. I don't know that I could bring myself to divorce her, but things are getting a bit sticky lately. she ruined perhaps one of my best days hunting when I nailed two deer in one day about a minute apart two seasons ago by picking a fight with me. I just don't see an easy way out of this. I even get a nasty look when I say I am going to shoot a three d round at that local range. three hours a week, and I get that. It is nice to know that there are others out there that feel the same way I do though. Keep the thoughts coming.

recurver--my wife would certainly be gone if she threw any of my hunting equipment anywhere.

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I guess I got lucky! My girl loves to hunt and it's awesome. We have a lot of fun together out in the woods.:D:D:D

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Yepper, my ex couldn't handle it after 10yrs, said I didn't need to be doing it anymore. I asked her, "What do you mean? For just this year or what? She said, "you really don't need to be doing it". Well, after that, things went done hill and she was gone soon, I just had a hard time believing that if she really loved me that she would ask me to give it up. I really didn't loose anything but I still hunt from sept to the end of nov., or season permitting. When it comes to hunting season I get tunnel vision and can't focus on anything other than being in the woods. ;) Bobby

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My girlfriend doesn't mind hunting, she's not against it but she's not strongly for it. It's the guns part of hunting she doesn't like. But on the other hand, she's glad that I can go spend time doing what I love with a some buddies.

Respect is the key
;)

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What are these - arranged marriages? Don't you get to know a person before you decide to marry them?

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LUST !!!!!!!!!!

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I found the key with my wife. You must find a woman who either hunts themselves (like mentioned before is a "rare breed"), or in my case find a woman who's dad is a diehard. My wife spent her whole life with her dad gone in the fall deer hunting. So it is no big deal for me to do it. The only real difference is her dad was not a Turkey hunter also as I am so she had to adjust to the spring thing. She is another one who will jump in and help me skin and process meat. And is very animant that I teach both of our kids the aspects of outdoors! I even took my wife hunting for the first time 2 years ago for turkey. She complained a little about the time in the morning and the walk through the woods in the dark, but when it broke daylight and she saw all of the game coming around she said to me "I now see why you do this, this is great" on top of it I called up a bird with a 10" beard that she killed. Now she wants to try to deer hunt.

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My wife doesn't hunt, and if she did I wouldn't want to be in the same woods with her behind a deadly weapon of any kind. However, after 26 years of marriage we have come to an understanding: I do what I love, and she does what she loves, and neither of us fusses with the other about it. That's why we have been married for 26 years.

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I had a girl that i had dated for 5 years and I was planning to marry ten years ago tell me at the last minute that she didn't agree with hunting after all. Well, that was her last day. And it's funny...the only thing I miss is this scallopped ham and potatoe dish that she used to make....damn was it good.

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My girl knows that when the woods calls, in the spring and fall, she has to just let me go or things will get bad around the house[:@]. She has my focuse from January to about the end of march, and a few monthes in the summer when it is to hot and dry to do anything, but go to the beach. I know when to push it and when to just say, tonight would be a good night to go get some dinner.

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My current g/f doesn't bother me. She has figured out that when my neck swells in the fall, that I'm on the chase.

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My wife has never been around anyone who hunted in her life. She went to a rich uptight school and always told her mom she would never be caught dead in the town I grew up in. She hated country music and always had to look her best. Well, needless to say she lets me go hunting almost whenever I want and never complains, she now lives in the town I grew up in, listens to country music and loves going to the mountains hanging out by the campfire. It's funny to look back and think that she loves doing everything she hated as a teenager. I have to say that when we started dating and the word marriage came into the picture I set the record straight. I said "I hunt, fish and hang out with my family so as long as you never tell me that I have to change or can't do any of these things we'll never have a problem". In all honesty it's a tradeoff. There are plenty of things that she wants me to do and places she wants me to go that I really don't want to. However, I realize that since she has no problem staying home with our 15mo old while I'm away 3 weekends in a row hunting then I too must comprimise. Now, if all you do is hunt, hunt, fish fish and never take time out for you family she may have a valid argument. If you do take time out and do things you don't want to just to make her happy then it sounds like she needs to realize that the world doesn't revolve around her. I always followed one rule and have since passed this advice on to my brother when he was dating his fiance. I told him "You hunt and have always hunted and that is never going to change once you get married so don't change for a little just to make her happy. If you want to go hunting for a weekend then go. If she gets that mad at you that she can't understand and breaks up with you then she isn't worth having around anyway and the next 60 years of your life would have been miserable". Now granted, once your married and have a child this advice doesn't really work but it's good for those that are still dating. I think you may need to explain to her where you are coming from. Maybe explain all the things you have given up for her to put your few weeks a year into perspective. I did this for my wife when we were first together and she started to realize that I actually did allot more for her than she thought. Another thing I did was explain to my wife what I gave up for something she wanted. For example, she may have wanted to go visit her grandfather in Indiana Pa the same weekend a friend of mine was having a bachelor party or something. She would just expect that I was going and think nothing of it. Then when the next weekend would roll around I may want to go camping with some friends and she'd start to get a little irritated. Well I would just remind her about the previous weekend and all was fine. It's almost as if she's one of those women who think absolutely everything has to be 50/50 and if she doesn't feel like she's getting enough time then you can't have your time either. It sounds to me like she's getting mad at you for hunting but conveniently forgetting about all the other things you do. (unless of course you don't do those other things but I don't know:D) Either way if you don't sit her down and explain it to her it's only going to get worse and now there's another one in the picture you need to worry about. I really hope everything works out.;)


holy $#!@ I just posted this and realized this is quite possibly the longest thing I have ever written.:D:D:D

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BE TRUE TO THYSELF!

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A marriage is a complicated thing having many duties, especially if there are children involved. Sorry, but hunting is a choice, a discretionary activity, and some duties are not discretionary -- like participating in raising your kids.

It seems there ought to be some way for a husband and wife to come to a compromise on hunting. On the other hand, if the husband is away from home all the time for anything -- hunting, work, golf, drinking at the saloon -- it is going to make for trouble in the marriage. If the husband spends all the discretionary money on hunting tack and the wife doesn't get to have her share of "mad money" you are going to have trouble.

My wife doesn't bitch too much about my going hunting. I go for a week deer hunting every fall. She sort of suggests I ought to short circuit the hunt when I get a deer opening day (I get a tag for one buck and one doe, so one deer does not completely fill my tags out) and return home. This is not a dumb idea. We can eat about one deer a year, and if I get two I will give most or all of it away. On the other hand, even when I don't get a deer I enjoy going hunting so why quit hunting just because I've got one deer hanging on the pole?

She has expressed interest in going bird hunting. I guess I'm a dummy because I haven't followed up on this. I could get her involved in bird hunting and add this to deer hunting. First step is getting her out to the skeet range to shoot some clay pigeons and develop a modicum of proficiency with a shotgun.

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I have got it made! I am gone EVERY weekend beginning middle Oct through mid Feb hunting deer. My wife has NEVER complained about me being gone or about how much $$ I spend on hunting clubs and equipment. Every once in a while she will actually go with me!
Now I have to say that my HONEY-DO list is pretty long when spring gets here, but I still come out way ahead!!!!!!!!

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Boyfriend on the side?

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I think I would....if it wasn't for my son. I do not want him to grow up in a single parent household.

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My girlfriend came from a hunting background family. I told her how things were from the get go that I spent more time in the woods than most people. It's been fine after almost 7 years. She gets a little frustrated when I am not around to do some things around the house, but we deal with it. She's actually a bad(good) influence when it comes to me spending money on hunting stuff. I tend to be 'thrifty' while she's always pushing for me to get the best stuff.