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My wife doesn't hunt, and if she did I wouldn't want to be in the same woods with her behind a deadly weapon of any kind. However, after 26 years of marriage we have come to an understanding: I do what I love, and she does what she loves, and neither of us fusses with the other about it. That's why we have been married for 26 years.

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I had a girl that i had dated for 5 years and I was planning to marry ten years ago tell me at the last minute that she didn't agree with hunting after all. Well, that was her last day. And it's funny...the only thing I miss is this scallopped ham and potatoe dish that she used to make....damn was it good.

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My girl knows that when the woods calls, in the spring and fall, she has to just let me go or things will get bad around the house[:@]. She has my focuse from January to about the end of march, and a few monthes in the summer when it is to hot and dry to do anything, but go to the beach. I know when to push it and when to just say, tonight would be a good night to go get some dinner.

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My current g/f doesn't bother me. She has figured out that when my neck swells in the fall, that I'm on the chase.

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My wife has never been around anyone who hunted in her life. She went to a rich uptight school and always told her mom she would never be caught dead in the town I grew up in. She hated country music and always had to look her best. Well, needless to say she lets me go hunting almost whenever I want and never complains, she now lives in the town I grew up in, listens to country music and loves going to the mountains hanging out by the campfire. It's funny to look back and think that she loves doing everything she hated as a teenager. I have to say that when we started dating and the word marriage came into the picture I set the record straight. I said "I hunt, fish and hang out with my family so as long as you never tell me that I have to change or can't do any of these things we'll never have a problem". In all honesty it's a tradeoff. There are plenty of things that she wants me to do and places she wants me to go that I really don't want to. However, I realize that since she has no problem staying home with our 15mo old while I'm away 3 weekends in a row hunting then I too must comprimise. Now, if all you do is hunt, hunt, fish fish and never take time out for you family she may have a valid argument. If you do take time out and do things you don't want to just to make her happy then it sounds like she needs to realize that the world doesn't revolve around her. I always followed one rule and have since passed this advice on to my brother when he was dating his fiance. I told him "You hunt and have always hunted and that is never going to change once you get married so don't change for a little just to make her happy. If you want to go hunting for a weekend then go. If she gets that mad at you that she can't understand and breaks up with you then she isn't worth having around anyway and the next 60 years of your life would have been miserable". Now granted, once your married and have a child this advice doesn't really work but it's good for those that are still dating. I think you may need to explain to her where you are coming from. Maybe explain all the things you have given up for her to put your few weeks a year into perspective. I did this for my wife when we were first together and she started to realize that I actually did allot more for her than she thought. Another thing I did was explain to my wife what I gave up for something she wanted. For example, she may have wanted to go visit her grandfather in Indiana Pa the same weekend a friend of mine was having a bachelor party or something. She would just expect that I was going and think nothing of it. Then when the next weekend would roll around I may want to go camping with some friends and she'd start to get a little irritated. Well I would just remind her about the previous weekend and all was fine. It's almost as if she's one of those women who think absolutely everything has to be 50/50 and if she doesn't feel like she's getting enough time then you can't have your time either. It sounds to me like she's getting mad at you for hunting but conveniently forgetting about all the other things you do. (unless of course you don't do those other things but I don't know:D) Either way if you don't sit her down and explain it to her it's only going to get worse and now there's another one in the picture you need to worry about. I really hope everything works out.;)


holy $#!@ I just posted this and realized this is quite possibly the longest thing I have ever written.:D:D:D

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BE TRUE TO THYSELF!

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A marriage is a complicated thing having many duties, especially if there are children involved. Sorry, but hunting is a choice, a discretionary activity, and some duties are not discretionary -- like participating in raising your kids.

It seems there ought to be some way for a husband and wife to come to a compromise on hunting. On the other hand, if the husband is away from home all the time for anything -- hunting, work, golf, drinking at the saloon -- it is going to make for trouble in the marriage. If the husband spends all the discretionary money on hunting tack and the wife doesn't get to have her share of "mad money" you are going to have trouble.

My wife doesn't bitch too much about my going hunting. I go for a week deer hunting every fall. She sort of suggests I ought to short circuit the hunt when I get a deer opening day (I get a tag for one buck and one doe, so one deer does not completely fill my tags out) and return home. This is not a dumb idea. We can eat about one deer a year, and if I get two I will give most or all of it away. On the other hand, even when I don't get a deer I enjoy going hunting so why quit hunting just because I've got one deer hanging on the pole?

She has expressed interest in going bird hunting. I guess I'm a dummy because I haven't followed up on this. I could get her involved in bird hunting and add this to deer hunting. First step is getting her out to the skeet range to shoot some clay pigeons and develop a modicum of proficiency with a shotgun.

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I have got it made! I am gone EVERY weekend beginning middle Oct through mid Feb hunting deer. My wife has NEVER complained about me being gone or about how much $$ I spend on hunting clubs and equipment. Every once in a while she will actually go with me!
Now I have to say that my HONEY-DO list is pretty long when spring gets here, but I still come out way ahead!!!!!!!!

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Boyfriend on the side?

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I think I would....if it wasn't for my son. I do not want him to grow up in a single parent household.