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A WORD OF CAUTION
I just wanted to remind everyone because its hunting season not no neglect the family in your lives. The wife left with the kids last week and I never seen it coming. I failled to pay enough attention to them. We have only been mairred 2 years now with a 1 year old son. I love them both with all my heart. I can only hope that she will reconcider. It was not me leaving to go hunting, it was the quallity time I should have spent when I was home. Man I sure do miss them!:(
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cheer up buddy... She will come back. She can't cook and the money will run out soon. In the mean time, get out there and hunt. The rut is on and i'd be out there only problem is I have to work today and tomorrow.
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Sorry to hear. Hope everything works out for you.
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Don't sweat it man, thats just more time to hunt...
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Sorry to hear about that.
Sometimes your delt a Full House...sometimes Aces and Eights. I was delt 4 of a kind. Hopefully you two can work things out. Good luck to you. |
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Best wishes in your tough times. Family has to come first....hunting a VERY close second. My wife and I go through this every year....good luck.
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Man I'm sorry to hear that....if you get your second chance remember that toget your priorities in line.
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Hate to hear that. Hope things work out for you. Keep your chin up.
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"Don't sweat it man, thats just more time to hunt..."
If you had a wife and kids you wouldn't make that comment. I would seriously be ill if I could not see my family every day. I wouldn't even care to think about not seeing my two kids.....at least you are honest, that is gonna help you be with your wife again. Vashadowhunter |
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My wife took off with my kids in 98, then divorced me a year later. Unfortunately she moved to CA and I live in MI (OH at the time) so I never get to see my kids.
I didn't hunt at the time though, I took that up after she left. I would have never been able to hunt with her around. I was on a very short leash. She stated the same reasons among others. Even though I was home all the time, she didn't think I paid enough attention to her and the kids. I feel for you dude, if you need to talk hit me up. Took me a while to get over it. Hopefully you can work it out if you want to. Paul |
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I am so sorry. That must be very hard for you. Not that you are even looking for advice, but I think I would just "man up" and admit to her you screwed up and are willing to do what it takes for her to come back.
It's hard. Hunting season only comes once a year, and sometimes the wives don't understand. But then again, sometimes WE don't understand either. I am in Missouri, and opening day for rifle season was Saturday. Our anniversary is today (monday) and I gave up opening weekend to spend with her. But on the bright side, that afforded me the luxury of leaving for 4 days this coming weekend. It's give and take, I hope it works out for you. I truely do. |
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Sorry to hear about your situation. Things can turn around for you guys. Email if you need to talk.
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I have been married for 2 1/2 years and have an 11 mo. old daughter. If my family left me I would be devistated. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Thank you for sharing your pain with us. If it wakes one guy up you did some good today. I don't know if you are a spiritual man but you might try turning to God. "Thy rod andThy staff, they comfort me".
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Man, I know how you feel, My wife decided after 6 years together, that she just didnt want to be married anymore, and the really bad part was that we had a 2 year old little boy. We were in the midde of moving from the Twin Cities in Mn, to Austin Mn. (about 2 hours away) she decided that she was going to stay in the Cities, and I already had a new job in Austin. 2 years later, she met some guy from North Dakota, and she took my son and moved out there, 10 hours one way. Needless to say I dont get to see my son very much.:((he is now 13). Any ways, this isnt about me or anyone else on here. There is not really anything anyone can say to make it better, but if you ever need to vent or just talk about things, feel free to PM me. Good luck in working things out. Keep us posted on how things are going.
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maybe a compromise? teach her how to hunt, my wife got a bow (shoots it very well) and loves to hunt with or without me with her! Hope things work out for the best for you, keep trying
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I got devorced in 2000, the difference is i fought for my kids( and won). So now she drives to see them on the odd weekends. Keep you chin up man dont give up on your kid!!!!!!!!! Fight like hell for them. Trust me there will be another woman. Only 1 child!!!!!!!!!
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Man, that's gotta hurt. I am SOO sorry! Hopefully, the communication hasn't broken down between you guys yet, and you can still work things out...
For some of the others that this hasn't happened to, and who are smart enough to NOT want it to happen (I know, it's easy to be full of machismo when typing on a computer screen under a cloud of anonymity...), I went back and pulled a reply that my wife wrote to Antler Eater on his "A Mailman Delivers..." post. While some of it is personally addressed to him, some of the points she makes on here are worthy of pointing out. The emphasis is mine, for the benefit of this thread. Ken, This is MQ1shooter's wife, Alison. First, I want to echo what so many others have said about the awesome story and beautiful buck. Thanks also for the kind words and credit you have given me in some of your posts. Greg always shows me them. It is very easy to be supportive of him with his hunting because he is such a wonderful, Godly man and he makes sure first that I feel loved and provided for and he is, of course,a fabulous father to Matthew. He has made many of my dreams come true so how could I deny him anything that he enjoys so much? Sometimes I do miss him some during deer season and I tell him and he will say ok, I won't go hunting tomorrow, get a sitter and we will go to dinner and a movie. I know what a sacrafice that is for him, especially during the rut, and we have a great time together and then I don't mind when he is gone a lot for the next couple of weeks or so because he makes it clear to me with his actions, not just his words, that I am the most important thing.Just a tip for some of you out there,but in case you haven't figured it out big bucks are nice but not as much fun to cuddle up with on a coldevening or morning.As Greg hasproven here often, he is no dummy! ;) No offense to all of you but actually what I mind more than the actual deer hunting is all the time he spends on the internet talking to you all. :) But we compromise! It is a good thing that I have always supported Greg with his hunting even before we had Matthew because now I would have to be supportive anyway if not as a wife as a mother!!I predict that Matthew will be an even more devoted and avid hunter than his daddy. He literally goes nuts when he sees the deer. He goes crazy when we pass those "deer crossing warning signs"you see on the road. He thinks that means we are going to see a deer right then and he wants me to slow down so he can see it. Tryexplaining that toa 2 year old!!! Last night we pretty much had to pry his fingers off the antlers and drag him in the house kicking and screaming; he did not want to leave that buck. He was perfectly prepared to spend the night out there with his new "friend"!! Thanks again for your kind words to us both and hope you have a good rest of the season. Congrats also on that new grandbaby, Abby; I am sure she is beautiful. |
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Sorry to hear that man!! Only advice I can give is any talking you do should be with her. Show her how much you love her , don't just tell her , and if she still loves you she will come back.
Just thought I'd add that my wife and I had problems years back. It's real easy for us guys to just take things for granted , including our spouses , thinking that things will never change so we shouldn't have to put in the effort that we did when we started dating them. Women are definately different creatures man. They require the same emotional attachment that we showed them when we were trying to sweep them off their feet ,for their entire lives. I'm glad I figured that out before it was too late. My wife and I had many fights about me going hunting or fishing. I always thought it was nothing but selfish b.s. on her part until I was forced to stand back and look at the big picture. When I got my head out of my arse and figured out how this woman species operates , things have changed like night and day. Now that I put her and the kids first and foremost , the way it should be , she no longer has a problem with me hunting , in fact when I have a bad day in the woods she is sympathetic. She realizes that I love her and the kids more than anything ,and she also realizes how much I love hunting ,and even if it's not her thing , she loves me too much to even think about asking me to quit doing something I love , and for that , I love her even more. |
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OHBowhunter, I will pray that you and your family reconcile. The lord works in mysterious ways, you never know what this could lead too. If it works out you may be stronger for it, if it doesn't maybe in the long run thats what God had planned.
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I feel for you man, I really do. I was married for 7 years, had 2 kids. The wife got tired of me being gone all the time, and headed for greener pastures. I was only 29. It was HELL going thru that divorce, and not a day goes by that I don't regret it. Even though I've been remarried for 6 years, and now have FIVE kids...my first 2 kids have had so much more stress in their life, because their parents were divorced. I'm happy now, but if I was a younger me, and it was "back then", I'd have BUSTED MY ASS trying to make it work. It was mountain biking/racing with me back then (and I was in the Army), but being gone is being gone. Good luck man, and I'll say a prayer for you. Treat your wife like she's a 210 B/C, and start putting in the hours to take her back. :DIf you CAN'T work it out with her, try to stay as friendly as possible for the kids, and be sure to be a central figure in your kids life. We only get one DAD. Okay, enough rambling from a nobody that wasn't asked for an opinion.
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Nothing anyone can say hear will change how you feel , Ive. been in your shoes. But trust me, if you love hunting, you need to find a different gal, or give up the sport. In the off season you may get back with her only to go through this next season. My wife played this game with me to Control her man. I showed her the door. And told her to brow beat some other sucker. & years later were still together 14 years in all. and now we have a understanding. Don't mess with hunting time. and I'll love her the best I can till the day I die. But piss on my huntin boots. and she'll find the door. PS. I have 5 kids. Support would still be better than not hunting. Funny thing is most of the anti hunting stuff was from her parents( mom control freak) I walked up to her looked my mother in law straight in the eyes and told her I wasn't her boy!, I am my own man!! and if you keep it up she can live with you. This is not a joke or threat its a promis. Haven't had a problem since. But then I GOT SAND!!! DO YOU
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No matter what happens , just remember one thing , you still have a child!! It always bothers me when I hear other guys talk about their divorce and refer to their kids in past tence , like "I had 3 kids". You'll always have you're kid! If things can't be worked out with your wife ,it's time to start spending even more quality time with your child. More than ever before!
God I hate hearing about this stuff. I really hope you guys can work it out! |
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im just new here but i like what i see. its pretty cool how supportive everyone is. great site and good luck man, i lost mine a year ago. just remember it gets better. chin up
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Thanks for the reminder of what's most important in my life.....
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sorry to hear that, maybe if you visited them every now and then she would reconsider. and maybe take her and the kids out somewhere, it always worked for my dad. but don't take my word for it, some families are different. good luck
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Sound's as though this could be an easy fix .I'm a very lucky guy myself because my wife knew coming into this relationship that i was a die hard hunter .My wife play's baseball in the summer and I tend to the kid's need's as need be if our schedule's conflict I'm able to negotiate it so that it's easy for both of us .I never put anything in the way of my family affair's ,they come first and I know it . We alway's discuss our plan's before going ahead and making plan's ,this way we're both clear on what we're doing .I also do a lot of the jouse work and odd job's around the house ,so that she doesn't have to do them and this give's the browny point's that i need for the fall month's of hunting .I hope thing's work out for you ,just remember you got to give a bit in order to get a bit ,so negotiate your time .
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