RE: lazy grandpa
Sounds to me like you' re over-reacting a bit. No offense intended, but it is his choice to employ the hunting ethics he sees fit. If he chooses to not drag out a deer, than it is his choice to make and he must live with the concequences.
You do not have to agree with him, but you should also not let it effect the way you treat him. It falls into the same category as religion and politics!
Extend your hand and move on, while you still have time.
JMO.