I found a way to make them "Honey Do Lists" work for me... My ex used to leave for me all the time. My theory was.. who said she is the only one that could add to the list. So I used to add my own things that I need to do, to the list like; Go fishing, spend day at the range, etc.. So I would add my write in, then cross that off as I got it done. It's easier to beg for forgiveness then sometimes get permission..