i'm a pretty firm believer that if there is an agreement then it ought to be kept. no matter your reason for your deer policy it was talked about before the fact so there were no surprises. it amazes me that when other people are in the wrong in order to keep peace or be "politically correct" the person that was doing what they should usually loses the sleep over the deal or becomes the bad guy if something is said. i think you should approach them and not feel bad of the outcome because if they make you out to be the bad guy it just proves they weren't worth the hand they shook with. sometimes these decisions are tough but if they are not made things will never be fixed and this goes for everything in life. good luck