1. He is singing the Puppy Blues....put one of your flannel shirts or something with your scent in the crate with him. He will get used to the crate in a couple of weeks.....If he is whining in the middle of the night he may have to go to the bathroom. At 9 months his bladder is not very large.
2. Try Dogs Afield or Cabelas.
3. He heres you just fine, he will have to get used to you and your surroundings and his name. Would you resopond to someone calling you Drake? Give him a little time
4. Your screwed! I had to sleep in the basement with my boys! lol
5. Start working on your basic obedience with him.....2-3 times per day 5 minutes tops.....get 10 minute retriever by John nd Amy Dahl....and do exactly as it says...no slacking and your boy will be a obeident dog and yur wife will let you back into the bedroom!
Good Luck and Good Training!