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Originally Posted by elgallo114
Leafrivermac said something in another post that got me thinking.
He said he wants to guard against his reactions to other's actions.
This is something I deal with everyday. I constantly have to find ways to temper my temper!
So, how do you guys do it? What do you do, say, or think about that helps you guard against over reacting? Or guard against just thinking uncharitable thoughts?
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First of all I consider "how much impact" will the action have on my life. For example, if someone is harming or disrespecting my wife my reaction would be whatever it takes to change the situation.
Having had temper issues in my life I learned some time ago that over-reacting mostly led to myself being the one looking like a fool or getting arrested.
In life I've learned that calmness, being soft spoken, and not quick to show anger, simply serves my purposes better. . . . .I have nothing to prove nor am I so great that I have to be treated with "kid gloves".
I really like healthy debating of doctrines. . . .a lot of folk can't debate issues without lashing out. As in real life I've found out that feeding back into that tit for tat will in the end reflect worse on me . . . .even more so if my opinion is in the minority.
There is, and have been, personalities on here that I find difficult for me to interact with. In the past we have had some clashes in which I know that my part of served to only put me in a bad light. For the most part I strive to not feed into their little displays now and I can see positive results come from it.
I come on here to pass a little time, check up on folks, and to be a witness of my faith and try to convince others. Wallowing in resentment or being baited into a flame war is counter productive to all of that.
Resentment, hatred, anger, are all a little prison unto themselves. Christ will slip that yoke off us if we''ll let Him.
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