Say you met a nice girl or been dating a while decide to take it to the next step marriage. You both come from a different denomination. What should you do? The denomination isnt probably the most important thing. I see this being a huge deal for me if I ever end up in a serious relationship.
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2Corinthians 6:14 says; Do not be unequally yoked to unbelievers. This is one of the most important things. However people from 2 denominations in some cases can seem very unequally yoked. For instance say a Lutheran man marries a Catholic woman, where do they attend church? What denomination will your kids be baptized, attend Sunday School? If you both can agree to these than I would say you are okay but if you don't there will be a division in your family and it can stunt your whole families spiritual growth. There are other things that you need to discuss when you are getting married and everyones priorities are different so I can give you some that Josh and I havetalked about or seen from others.
Kids can you agree on how many kids to have?Can you agree on punishment for the kids?And discuss and agree on the role of the dad and the role of the mom, spiritually, what does the dad teach the kids and what does the momteach the kids. (Man teaches the son how to be a good husband, leader, and dad; and the daughter how tochoose a husband. Woman teaches the daughter how to be a good wife and mom, and to let her husband be the leader. And the son how to choose a good wife. Both teach love, and responsibility/accountability. In our case)
What is the husbands responsibility inthe marriage?What is expected of him?
What is the wifes role in the marriage? What is expected of her?
Divorce needs to be discussed before marriage and both need to put thier view, expectations, ect. on the table and both need to agree with the terms. (In my case there is no grounds for divorce-my husband the only grounds is adultary, caseclosed unless I cheat on him divorce can never be put on the table, and just a tidbitonce divorce is put on the table most couples are divorced or in the process of it within 6 months)
Here are a few other things to consider, your backgrounds. My husband was raised in a Christian home, his parents loved him and they talked about things, problems, feelings,I however was raised in a home where we only went to church on Christmas Eve. We never talked about our problems, our feelings, ect.When we first got married it was really hard because Josh would ask what was wrong and I would say nothing. Mostly because I didn't even know what I felt let alone how to put it in words. It took me a long time to learn how to talk about things, and I am still working on it.
The last thing I can think of is will one of you stay home with the kids? Who will stay home with them? How long will they stay home with the kids? (till they are in school full-time? Until they are in highschool? ect.) and can you both agree on this.
Here is some advice I would like to give you, while you are dating go to bible studies together for couples, or seminars, read books on marriage, and the differences between men and women. (the thought process, how they talk, goals and aspirations, how to communicate together)
There are many issues that should be resolved between a couple before marriage and this is one of them. First of all, you need to decide for yourself is you are willing to marry someone who follows a different religious practice than you. If you're not, then you shouldn't be dating outside your own church. If you are tnen you have some issues to work on. It'snot going to be as difficult when it's just you two. It gets a lot more so when it comes to "how are we going to raise the kids?"
As Mudhead's wife points out above, there are many issues to cover. Most of these are best dealt with BEFORE a couple decides on marriage. Once you decide you're in love and want to marry, it's too easy to make compromises that you find you can't live with later.
Although, as it turns out, the thought of marriage was in both our minds for that first five months. But we never touched or acted like boyfriend/gilfriend during that time. I went over to his house everyday after school and in the morning on weekends and we would hang out together until it was my curfew and he would drive me home. In the process we got to know each other very well. He was religious so I started going to mass with him. It took me a long time of asking questions and investigating other faiths before I was finally convinced that the Catholic faith was right. I have had spiritual experiences which have let me know that I did the right thing.
I would suggest to you that you two just start talking and getting to know each other and learning your feelings and attitudes towards all the important things is life before you start talking marriage. Then if it turns out that you are compatible and that you can love each other as well, then things should work out.
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To quote you:
"I see this being a huge deal for me if I ever end up in a serious relationship."
If this is true and you date a girl,of a different religion, you WOULD BE a poor stick to begin with. It is not right to treat people like that. I'm sorry that is the way I see it.
Say you met a nice girl or been dating a while decide to take it to the next step marriage. You both come from a different denomination. What should you do? The denomination isnt probably the most important thing. I see this being a huge deal for me if I ever end up in a serious relationship.
As long as she is a Christian, I have no problem with herdenomination............
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Not much else to add. Personally, I never would date anyone outside of my faith. Marriages have enough obstacles without going into it in disagreement over the most important aspect of our life.
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Never thought about denomination being a issue in marriage! See as I have been married too many times it was never an issue but older I get the more I look at that aspect.I have learned I should not marry agin but even what church they attend if I date may be something to me.I was raised Baptist and am not a regular attendee to services.You don't need a minister to marry you or bury you so I steer clear of most religous subjects.My last marriage ended when my multi-religion wife met a "good christian man" and next thing I know they are canoodling and he knows she's married but continues his behaviors(she had morals that would make a goat cringe obviously).I respect folks for what their religion says they do during ceremonies and tradions but am not big on organized religion but where they attend if they are in my life any deeper than strictly friends will be something that dictates if any kind of relationship is possible.Knew there was a reason I stayed out of here!
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Never thought about denomination being a issue in marriage! See as I have been married too many times it was never an issue but older I get the more I look at that aspect.I have learned I should not marry agin but even what church they attend if I date may be something to me.I was raised Baptist and am not a regular attendee to services.You don't need a minister to marry you or bury you so I steer clear of most religous subjects.My last marriage ended when my multi-religion wife met a "good christian man" and next thing I know they are canoodling and he knows she's married but continues his behaviors(she had morals that would make a goat cringe obviously).I respect folks for what their religion says they do during ceremonies and tradions but am not big on organized religion but where they attend if they are in my life any deeper than strictly friends will be something that dictates if any kind of relationship is possible.Knew there was a reason I stayed out of here!
Whoa there King Fish!! You're rambling off like an evangelist that had a quarter put in his nickle box. I have no idea what you just said.... Quit sniffing that glue on your inserts.[&:] You must be a work becauseI just tried to call ya to put you on the right path to holiness!
One more little tidbit to consider. If the girl was raised in a certain denomination and has gotten away from her faith, she may say to you on this subject; oh it's not thatimportant. Here is what happens later though. At some point, usually after having kids, all of a sudden the church becomes important again. Now after all those years of that persons beliefs being dormant, they come back to life. Usually, the only thing they know is what they were taught growing up, so that's what they go back to. In other words, what seems unimportant right now can become a big issue later on when that person's spirituallity kicks inagain. The best way is to earnestly seek thewill of the Lord in this and all decisions.
Blessings.....Pastorjim
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