I am coming here for advice, I just dont know what to do.....
I have been in church since I was 5 and I can still remember when my father would come home mad. So so mad he would scare the living crap out of my whole family. I remember laying in my bed being so afraid...while my mom took the yelling...the screaming..all for me and my brother and sister. I prayed so hard every night for him to get better...every single night he was the first one I would pray for...PLEASE HELP MY DAD LORD!!!!
Nothing ever changed.....
Years have passed, and many prayers have been heard and said...but yet nothing seems to have changed. My dad is still a crazy yelling idiotic guy that just dont get the point. He is tearing our family apart and I cant take it anymore. Its to the point where my brother wont even come home because of it, I have only seen him about 10 times this year.
He has been in church and prays...talks to God...but yet...still acts this way. I ahve prayed so hard...and ya know...ive kinda given up. Recently he lost his job and its made it so much worse.....now all he does is lay on the couch all day and sulk in his misery while me and my mother work from dawn to dusk to pay the bills.
Yet he has the nerve to criticize her job...make up stupid stories about why she is out so late...while all he does is sit at home and do absolutely nothing!! He gets mad at me for hunting so much....when in all honesty I am out there to stay away from him.
Today I found 2 whole boxes of empty beer cans in the garage...then he has the nerve to try and hide them.He yells at me for not giving him "gas" money and complains that his truck sucks fuel but yet he doesnt go anywhere....its all making sense. I am just so mad and frustrated I dont know what to do anymore.
All I can ask is for more prayers...cuz its the only thing that can help....my whole family is in misery every day. We never hear the end of the degrading crap he says. As soon as we wake up...till the time we go to bed, its all any of us hear.
Please pray for him....I am so lost at what to do.....
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First of all let me say how sorry I am that you are having to endure such behavior. I am not in a position to judge your father, but it sounds to me like he is very unhappy with himself. Sometimes when a man feels inadequate in an area of his life, he lashes out at those around him. Believe me, I have been there myself. You are doing the right thing in continuing to pray for him and your family. And although it may seem as though your prayers are not doing any good, I assure you that God hears everyone of them and He cares about your family. Don't give up on praying but also, don't give up on your relationship with the Lord. It is probably what has sustained you through this situation. You don't state your age but rest assured that this, your father, is not the example that God would have a christian father set for his family. Please keep your eyes on Jesus and try to draw closer to Him through prayer and the reading of His word. And remember that there are alot of people praying for you now since you made this post, so you are not alone in this struggle.
Blessings.....Pastorjim
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coming from experience I'm praying that it gets better. I love your family, and they have always treated me great, (aside from your sister and mom picking on me ) and I've never really seen that side, but I have absolutely no reason to doubt anything. It breaks my heart when you get like this, just know that I am always here for you, and anything at all that I can do, just let me know. Keep praying, and Just know that my family is here for yours.
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May God give you strenth and wisdom in your situation! Northern Ky is awsome country. I have several deer leases in N KY. 1 in Crittenden Co. and 1 in Lyons Co. Have family that live in Eddyville. God Bless.
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Sounds to me like your father is suffering from depression. Which is an illness. The trick will be to get him to accept the fact and get treatment. Is there a mental health organization near you? Perhaps a talk with a doctor would be a place to begin. If you explain the problem maybe the doctor can put you in touch with a mental health proffesional who can help you. Or a minister or priest could help you.
On this site we can offer to pray for you and your father and we can offer all kinds of long distance support. But you have to take posative steps to solve the problem. Your dad needs medical help.
What does your pastor say? Your dad does sound like he needs help. What he's doing isn't right and he will eventually drive his family away if he doesn't get it together. You sound like you have good morals and a strong faith. Prayers en route.
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I am coming here for advice, I just dont know what to do.....
I have been in church since I was 5 and I can still remember when my father would come home mad. So so mad he would scare the living crap out of my whole family. I remember laying in my bed being so afraid...while my mom took the yelling...the screaming..all for me and my brother and sister. I prayed so hard every night for him to get better...every single night he was the first one I would pray for...PLEASE HELP MY DAD LORD!!!!
Sounds like some of us..Do Christians get angry? Yep..Do they fly off the handle ? Yep Is it right ? nope? Remeber Peter in the garden..cutting off a soldier's ear..Remember Paul and John Mark ...Anger outburst is a result from fear because according to 1 John 4 the wrath of God abides on that individual..They can preach , give and do loving kindnesses but like a volcano that person erupts unexpectfully at times usually distroying relationships..Speaking from experience here..Your dad will always feel justified..he may even read his Bible daily, pray daily and sing beautiful songs..Your dad needs one thing..TO KNOW THAT GOD LOVES HIM..We all need that..Once an individual feels secure in Christ..the anger will leave..LOVE your dad..and pray for your dad that he will be delivered from this torment. There is a breach in the spirit..
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Years have passed, and many prayers have been heard and said...but yet nothing seems to have changed. My dad is still a crazy yelling idiotic guy that just dont get the point. He is tearing our family apart and I cant take it anymore. Its to the point where my brother wont even come home because of it, I have only seen him about 10 times this year. I wish your dad would call me..I'
d love to talk with him..When my anger nearly cost me my job last week...I knew it was enough..It is a spirit my friend..not disobedience.Your dad can't help it..He probably shakes and feels like a righteous prophet in his anger outburst..only because he actually is blinded..James tells us that "The wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God." BUT all the preaching in the world can't help an anger man..Like the Prodical Son ..HE has to come to his senses..he can't see the forest because of the trees..I've been just recently set free myself ..I would love to speak with your dad..in a very kind way..I feel sorry for angry people..They are of all men most miserable..However..the true freedom must come from God..This is one area I've learned that can't be manufactured ...He must have a genuine touch from God.
He has been in church and prays...talks to God...but yet...still acts this way. I ahve prayed so hard...and ya know...ive kinda given up. Recently he lost his job and its made it so much worse.....now all he does is lay on the couch all day and sulk in his misery while me and my mother work from dawn to dusk to pay the bills.Sounds like some of us my brother..and he is a Christian..Your dad would love to be free..he does not like this..
Yet he has the nerve to criticize her job...make up stupid stories about why she is out so late...while all he does is sit at home and do absolutely nothing!! He gets mad at me for hunting so much....when in all honesty I am out there to stay away from him.Yep.. i grew up with a very angry step dad..I fished and hunted daily..Proverbs says to stay away from an angry man and that there is more hope for a fool than an angry man..yep..pretty much hopeless.UNLESS Jesus frees that man..AND if He can free me..He can free anybody..
Today I found 2 whole boxes of empty beer cans in the garage...then he has the nerve to try and hide them.Yep..signs of a hurting man to me..and one that is in danger of making a bigger mess for himself..Best thing you can do.
a. Pray for him
b. don't argue with him..he will be always "Right"
c. If it starts getting physical ..you may need to call the law.
Remember ..hate the sin not the sinner..
He yells at me for not giving him "gas" money and complains that his truck sucks fuel but yet he doesnt go anywhere....its all making sense. I am just so mad and frustrated I dont know what to do anymore.
All I can ask is for more prayers...cuz its the only thing that can help....my whole family is in misery every day. We never hear the end of the degrading crap he says. As soon as we wake up...till the time we go to bed, its all any of us hear.
Please pray for him....I am so lost at what to do.....
WOW..sounds worse than I originally thought..You will be in my prayers..That is the problem with demons/ strongholds..thier goal is to rob and destroy..so the mess gets uglier instead of better..If it gets abusive you may need to get a court order to protect yourself and family
I'm really sorry about the H E L L you folks are in..He seems worse than I was..I never did those secret sins often and I've always knew love is the greatest..so when my anger would go off the handle I often would come right back and apologize...my outburst were usually about once every 4 months but I lived in a cacoon of prayer and fasting to psyche myself up so I wouldn't lose it...that helped a ton..but being set free is much better..
Prayers for sure,
c7
Maybe talking to your minister or even another church leader would be the best start. There may be some counsouling available through your church that could help. I truely think you are on the right track though, all things are possible through him. Keep your faith and leave it in his hands, I'll be praying for you and your family as well.
Best of luck!
Just a vent
) and I've never really seen that side, but I have absolutely no reason to doubt anything. It breaks my heart when you get like this, just know that I am always here for you, and anything at all that I can do, just let me know. Keep praying, and Just know that my family is here for yours.
