LOVE......

Turkey Fife · 07-26-2008, 11:04 PM

I am going to start a post here that could break all records.

How do we as men show our love? Please no Sexuall talk.

I must admitt I fall very short. I am talking about the love that looks for the best in our wives, family, friends ect. This is hard to write. I want to honest with you and myself.

For years we just put our money in the Bank and use it for bills, kids, house, cars ect. After I retired, I started a business, have and account, and Cash of my own (soto speak) so when we go out I'll Pay for the dinner, show, and now I can get her a Gift once in awhile. She likes that if its something that is practical. The same around the house if I can do something for the house. I am sure you younger men do a bunch more than I do. I am probably not as good a listener as most husbands. I feel I am a Good Listener to Friends and Family. I wish I could do as much for my wife as she does for me. Love is more than just saying it. I am not talking about passion, but, doing for her, making he feel special. She makes me feel that way all the time. She says you were the most handsome man their. Next time she says that I am going to ask her if she would have said that if Tom Cruse was there?

I have loved her for 39 years, she was a May Queen, Basketball Queen, has a Masters Degree, Raised 3 Wonderful kids, worked 26 years, My Clothes are always clean, Cooks, Cleans, walks 4 miles EVERYDAY, would not leave the house unless she looked like a Doll, Reads Books and still makes me feel like a KING. I need to tell her this everyday. Love is a wonderful thing!

TF

Chuck7 · 07-27-2008, 02:01 AM

His love is supernatural...it's of God..it's unconditional..There are 3 different types of love
Greek words
Eros..sexual love
Phileo..I love deer hunting
Agape...mericiful unconditional

The agape comes from knowing God..In my experience it can only come through being dead to self..We are commanded to be dead to self.When this happens you will have true sorrow for the loss and look for opportuniities to share Christ..You will be a true neighbor and bless them..and iwithout looking for thanks..You are simply a branch extending from the Christ the vine..BUT again..it's been my experience that this can only be lived through one who is dead to the world..in a more practical word..a fasted life style..because our carnal nature is selfish,..Romans 8 says we are not able to please God..and that we must put to death our flesh in order to live...This must be a daily thing.

We are commanded to love only to show our inability to love THUS causing us to come to Christ and to let Christ live through that individual..

1 John 4:for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
8He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

Summary...when this happens our joy will be full ..we will never be depressed and "They will know that ye are my disciples." and 1000s of other benefits as well.

sachiko · 07-27-2008, 08:28 AM

I could cite many examples, but I'll just give you one. Right after Miriam was born I was very tired and slept a lot. Miriam was nursing about every three hours. She usually sleeps through the night now, but night and day made no difference back then. When she would wake up at night, my husband would get up, change her diaper and bring her to me. I would usually fall back to sleep, but he would stay up and wake me when it was time to change sides. Then when she was finished and went back to sleep, he would put her back in her crib. At first I would pretty much sleep through the whole thing.

After the first week or so, I was able to stay awake, but he stuck with that routine until she started sleeping through the night. The three of us are very close and I think that shows how much he loves us.

May The Sheep Be With You

Turkey Fife · 07-27-2008, 02:44 PM

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I think that shows how much he loves us.

I do too, I am sorry to say I never changed one dirty dipper on our kids. I should have but just made excuses. I was really a poor father in many ways. I am to old to have anymore kids to get it right.

Nice post C7 but I am just talking about the Love we show others in our family.

TF

Turkey Fife · 07-27-2008, 02:49 PM

I mentioned RECORD Breaker....LoL Might be the worst post ever made[&o]

54 Lookers and Only one man to respond. Its hard for us men to talk about Love.

Yet, we think ourselves to be Such Great Lovers

TF

Swift Arrow · 07-27-2008, 04:07 PM

Our teacher taught us to be a Lover, not a fighter.. Anger is a tool that is used by the enemy. It can be either uncontrollable or you can control it. Depression can cause us to feel inadequate. Fear, like the fear of someting as little as changing the diapers can even cause us to fail. Be confident, do something about it and fear not!

Edited to say: Be GOD confident!

The Rev · 07-27-2008, 07:00 PM

I lost my wife of 30 years. You can never say " I love you" enough. You can't open too many doors, you can't bring home enough flowers. You can't just sit and listen enough. Water and take care of that precious one, for you never know when God call them home, don't take one day for granted!

Turkey Fife · 07-27-2008, 10:55 PM

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I lost my wife of 30 years. You can never say " I love you" enough. You can't open too many doors, you can't bring home enough flowers. You can't just sit and listen enough. Water and take care of that precious one, for you never know when God call them home, don't take one day for granted!

I am so sorry to hear that Rev. How long has she been gone? Women really look at men different who marry "SOON" Well at least mine does

We were at a resturant just today and my wife pointed our a man their that's wife has not been gone more that a year and he was with a woman. Men don't do well by thier lonesome. I would think any less of a man who would marry a few month's after the passing of his loved one. She sure does.

shamlin · 07-28-2008, 12:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: The Rev

I lost my wife of 30 years. You can never say " I love you" enough. You can't open too many doors, you can't bring home enough flowers. You can't just sit and listen enough. Water and take care of that precious one, for you never know when God call them home, don't take one day for granted!

I really cant imagine how painful that must have been. All I can say is that when life throws that at you you really have to be a striong person to keep ticking after that. All the respect in the world for overcoming that situation.

Chuck7 · 07-28-2008, 02:26 AM

Fellows,
It's been my experience that the best thing you can do for your wife..is to be in tune with the Lord.."Walking in the Spirit," when I'm a joke she is depressed..when I walk in the Spirit ..she is over flowing with joy..This is a fact..Our faith ignites their faith.

As far as practical things to do..

I share i the cooking...

Itreat my wife with respect ALWAYS..

She is always right..

I learned to love cats..

we have a few

She manages ALL money and is fugile .we don;t fight over money. Bu thonestly , your wife wants a spiritual leader..the best you can do for your wife is to walk in the Spirit..My wife desires that over all out of me..and that walk cost me everything but the benefits are out of this world..

C7