what is wrong with the world

[deerhunter1224]

I am finding more and more about my friends in their relationship with God or the lack of. Some of my friends dont believe and others do believe but their morals are a bit wacked. I am starting tothink the whole world is not very religious. Just today someone wrote into the advice columun of the newspaper it was some girl little older then I wasnt married she was having some guy problems she says she tends to sleep with them which results in her problems. That seems to be a huge problem premarriage sex. It seems like everyone does it. I havent ran into anyone my age that feels it wrong. Maybe thats why God hasnt sent me a girl at this point he knows I would do wrong she would try and get me to do wrong. Has it always been this bad with people having sex before marriage.

[Red Lion]

How old are you? If you seek a women that holds the same beliefs and ideals as you, then you need to look for one where others share your beliefs and ideals. Do not be in a rush to find someone, and I am not saying that you are, but you will come across the right one some day. It will happen when it is right to happen. Nothing wrong with staying true to what you believe in. Many young people these days are very fancy free and foot loose, or better put, not so attentive to issues that were more important in years prior. I believe more and more as the years pass that you reap what you sow, or karma is another way to put it. Good luck and stay true to yourself.

[NiceAndBlue]

i'm 23 and i know exactly what you mean. all of my "christian" friends growing up have either stopped believing altogether or just don't care. none of them see anything wrong w/premarital sex and try to engage in it as much as possible. my unsaved friends of course do the same thing.

b/c they don't believe anymore i really don't hang out w/anyone. i'm better off being around ppl older than me who share the same convictions as me. it is rare to find ppl that believe in the sanctity of marriage these days. don't give up, keep asking the Lord to send u the right girl, i know i am. you're prayers will be answered. it may take time and patience but it will be worth it.

premarital sex is not as rampant as it was decades ago. the bible says in the end times ppl will have thier conscience seared with a hot iron.

[mudhead1s wife]

The right girl is out there for you. I will share a little about myself and the people that I have met in the church. Maybe this will help a little. I am the 5th child born ouy of 10. My parents did not go to church except for on christmas. I was one of those girls that was told not to have sex until I was married and not from my parents but from my aunt. She never told me why though and she wasn't exactly the greatest example. She cheated on my uncle got pregnant then divorced him and got married to the other guy. As a teenager I never stopped to think about the consequences and hey it worked for everyone else right? Wrong but they didn't really put that in the open. I got pregnant when I was 18. I broke up with the guy when I finally woke up to smell the coffee. He was wrong for me and wouldn't be a good influence on his child. At the time I didn't know what was right, I just knew that he wasn't it and I was going to right and find out what the right thing was.
Then I met my husband who had been raised in the Lord and had walked away for a few years. He was straightening out his life and took me to meet his parents. We figured it out starting dating then got married. When Isaac was 2 Josh adopted him. I found out the hard way why we aren't supposed to have sex before we are married. Luckily I had God to help me fix my life, but it was not easy. There were trust issues that we had to get through. And we had a baby to take care of when we got married. Even though things turned out good for us I wouldn't never recommend this path to anyone.
Here's my suggestion, I think you may want to check out some different churches in your area. And one more thing, make a list of the things that are important to you in a wife. Figure out what you can accept and what you cannot. When you go on a date ask a few of the most important things, if she does not fit then be honest with her, if she fits the most important go on another date and ask a few more questions, and continue until you find the right one. The more involved you are in the church the more oppurtunities you will have to find the right girl. Just remember that is not the only reason you are there.
The things we see in this world can be very discouraging, but the Lord is here for us. Take your cares in prayers and He will listen.

[TexasOaks]

Don't give up and always have hope. I am 23 and still a virgin. I agree; it is hard to find people that still believe in not having premarital sex. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 5.5 years and believe me there has been muchtemptation over the years. I'm not saying I haven't had stumbles along the way in this area, but I keep prayer as close as I can to me, practice scripture,and keep temptation as far away as I can. Yes, it helps to find someone who has the same beliefs and the same goals about not having sex before marriage becauseit does make it a lot easier.

I prayevery nightto God that Amber and Icould buildour foundation for our relationship around God andwith Jesus Christ as our Saviorwe can overcome any obstacle in our pathand please help us tocommunicate better to one anotherand understandeach othermore everyday. Yes, it takes work, (anything worth doing usually does)but our relationship is notbuilt on a physical level but a spiritual one. We also try to do couple devotions together.

We just finished this book: Devotions For Dating Couples: Building A Foundation For Spiritual Intimacy

If you ever need support or someone to talk to, shoot a PM or email or whatever.

Good Book: Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn