Has anyone ever taken the Brigg's Color test? It's a test to help you understand people better, assign the right workto my students and help employers fit the right people to the right job. It has helped me some in understanding folks on here and my wife..It also talks about what ticks certain people off more than others. Pretty intersting. There are 4 basic colors bu twe all are strong in certain areas. Example..some are leaders..some are more comfortable following. Some like change and spice..some need a rigid routine daily..Very interesting. If interested I can post the link so you can test yourself. As I've been growing in Christ I've hit a wall. ..a serious wall.My wife feels neglected ..like I love God better.than her.This may seem silly ,but it is serious and I'm asking God to help me.
If any other brothers have had that problem please give me some councel.
My wife feels neglected ..like I love God better.than her.This may seem silly ,but it is serious and I'm asking God to help me.
You should love God more than her. I am sure you already know that Chuck, but why not spend a little extra time with her and let her know that as your relationship with the Lord grows, your love for her will grow as well.
btw, if you have a lind to the color test I would appreciate it.
Chuck can defend his own actions and I certainly can't say I know anymore about the specifics of the situation than all of you.
Having said that, I can very easily see how this kind of situation arises. I doubt he's used religion as an "excuse"...but everything that we pursue will take some amount of our time. We all only have so much, and we all have the same amount (24 hours a day to exact[8D]). Its very easy for people both near and far from us to affected by our other interests. Even when they share those same interests. "Excuse"....I doubt it. Finding a way to fulfill all the obligations, as teacher, son, father, God's creation, husband, lover, friend, mentor, provider, protector......and a way to balance it at...THAT'S a challenge we all have to face. He's done nothing more than admit that he hasn't got the recipe just perfect yet.
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Maybe you should have an open conversation with her about what she thinks you should be doing differently. It's hard to give a better answer without knowing more of the problem.
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WOW!!This is very funny. My dear friends this is called presumption. I shouldn't of even made the statement I reckon. I certainly don't ignor my wife. I've got a beautiful wife. We don't watch TV. She sits in the recliner every night and reads while I pick my guitar. We are both teachers and our rooms are literally next door ro each other. I'm with her nearly every spare moment. Most of you know I've been seeking to live the dead to self Romans 8 walk. Honestly, this has been new for me. and I'm learning alot.
I should have made myself more clear..This time around I will simply quote scriptures . But no ..I'm presently not going through any marriage problems.I will share what the problem is when I quote the scriptures,
Here is what I was talking about. Say...your wife agrees with this verse for a season..
1 Cor. 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
KJV
Let's see another version. 1 Cor. 7:5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won"™t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control. Living Bible
I think you can now see the problem. In the initial agreeing the spouse may say that is wonderful..come Friday night..[]there could be a change of heart.
Now I think you all understand...I was simply wondering if any other Christians have dealt with thhis issue. God is helping me my friends. Lately everything has been new. I was just wondering if maybe a brother has already gone through this he could give me some advice. Paul warned us... 1 Cor. 7:28But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh. KJV
Okay Chuck, this may be too much information. So lets say a hypothetical husband and wife decide to fast and/or refrain from sex for spiritual reasons. Than a few days later one of them decides they would like to remove the restriction on sex. Should the other oblige their spouse in sex? Without giving any specific scripture to back it up I would say yes. It would seem to be counterproductive to deprive ones spouse and lead to much trouble in the relationship.
You are correct. I'm a very sensible man and always put my wife first. However; I can assure you that if you venture to please God with all of your heart youwill be tried. When the outward stuff doesn't work then often times your enemys {According to Jesus} may be of your own household. Remember , the brothers of Jesus didn't even beleiv ein him. And I would never defraud my wife of her needs..not for one second. However; it seems offensive to my wife that I could actually consider "Not needing her for a day." I guess that is a strong need for a women ..to feel needed all the time by their husbands. But for the 3rd time...I would never defraud my wife for 1 second. I actually thought she wouild be tickled pink if I gave her some space. Well, she wasn't . instead it offended her.
So I took all of this before the Lord. I also read some out of a book a close freind on here reccomended ."The Five Languages of Love. " Anyway..I believe in the long run my wife will respect me if I live godly. Certainly God can help me be more romantic and walk in the Spirit at the same time.
Still learning,
C7
Has anyone ever taken the Brigg's Color Test?
My dear friends this is called presumption. I shouldn't of even made the statement I reckon. I certainly don't ignor my wife. I've got a beautiful wife. We don't watch TV. She sits in the recliner every night and reads while I pick my guitar. We are both teachers and our rooms are literally next door ro each other. I'm with her nearly every spare moment. Most of you know I've been seeking to live the dead to self Romans 8 walk. Honestly, this has been new for me. and I'm learning alot. 
]there could be a change of heart.
