I know posted something like this before. Each of us want for the most part always want something in our lives. Mine is to find that special woman. As most of us are guys in this forum and alot married.There are some guys that are really good with the ladies "they have game" Is how people of my age call it. I dont have so much of this "game". I have prayed more then a few times for God to send me a nice lady. Maybe its not the time okay. When is that time? I dont know but sure would like it to be sometime soon. Its hard for me if I see a pretty girl across the room and start talking with her. Youprobably say just go up and start talking. Easier said then done.I thought maybe this is a sign from God. Maybe he is saving me the handaches of going thoughmany relationships before I find the right girl.Even some of the girls I have as friends I am bit shy around. I have been told wait for God to send youthe girl. Well if I have a hard time talking with women. How will I ever meet her?
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Have you ever thought that God has something more important for you to do for Him first.
Look to Him first. Fall completely in love with Jesus, and then You'll know how to love. Love is something very special. It's not about the good looking girl, or the hot girl.. Love is.. Ask those that know what it is to devote your life to a person. Ask Bro Motor, and Reb. and I am sure I'm missing others that have been married a long time. I know that I was married to my wife for 30 years when she died. I know that love goes farther, and deeper than just a feeling. It's a way of life. It's about caring more about that person than yourself.
Trust me on this one. Fall in love with Jesus first. I mean head over heels for Him, and when that woman comes around it will last a life time when He send her to you. Remember God isn't on our time, He opperates on perfect time.
Moses too had a probem talking. When God called him to give him a hand to free the Israelites he said to God are you sure you want me??? I have a heckuva hard time talking. God said that's ok I got your back. He then sent him a mothpiece Aaron.
Don't despair, God's got your back. He knows your heart, your desires. It is ok to ask for the things you desire too. He said so.
It's all about timing.Many people say things like this is the person God chose for me, God put us together etc. TRUE.... But... remember the one God has chosen for you he may not be ready to deliver her yet.The true awesomeness of God is he is dealing with ALL of the circumstances around it. Her life and yours.
Havethe faith that HE is in control. He is faithful and Just and HE will deliver us the desires of our heart.
believe it or not there are some good women out there that are not impressed by the guys that have so called "good game" and are looking for an honest caring person, be a friend first, if people know you as a good and caring person, things will be thrown in your lap that you could have never imageand, these mustbe sincere though, most real people can see thru an act
what are you waiting for, put the things in your mind out and do the right things and God will bless you far greater than you or i could imagine, i promise you it will work, but you must put God first
will be praying for you fred, keith
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It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.
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Dh1224,
I understand what you are talking about. I have to agree with everybodies responses. My wife and I have been married almost 5 years now. I wanted to tell you that I went looking for myself when I was in college. It didn't give me anything but heartache and pain. I wasn't following God. I was doing it myself on my terms. I failed miserably as I should have seen I was going to. Please be patient, God will do his work through you if you let Him. You have probably heard all of this before, and everyone is different. Just felt I needed to type this for you.
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Hello, I just wanted to let you know that I'm pretty much in the same boat as you are with the whole Girlfriend thing. I'm a pretty shy guy. I hate going to big parties andthings like thatI know most of the kids at these types of places will just be getting drunk and doing nothing thatI feel is good for us to be doing.All the members on herehave said it before you need to find your friends at your churchor another community where Genuinly good people get together, (ie voulenteering).I'm not saying that you won'tmeet good people in your day to day life.I had a girlfriend for about two and a half years who I was convinced I wanted to marry, as things turned out it didn't work out and I had a broken heart becuase of it. I believe that if we put God first and trust in his plans for us, we don't need to worry about the future. This belief has made my life much easier. Be true to God and yourself and I think that your life will work out for the better. You can't force people to change for you and in the same respect I think that we can't make Gods plans for us change either. Take your time and pray for God's will to be done. I will pray for you also. Chris
I often said prayers to find that special woman too. I was 25 when I finally got married, and traveled to many different states and a couple of countries ....... I had plenty of opporuntity for sure ! I didn't want just any old gal ....... I wanted love, and I waited a long time for it.
Easier for a man to wait, at 25 I was beginning to get a bit worried to be honest ! Now I'm 37, a 7 year old, 5 year old, married 11 years. My wife is 7 years younger than me BTW
All that said ......... while I understand your pain, don't ask God for a woman IMO. He's given you what he's given you, use what God gave you at birth and make it happen yourself. Don't rely on a strike of lightning, or devine intervention.
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