RE: Discernments
Remember the old biblical injunction, "Judge not, that ye be not judged" (Mt. 7:1)? It made good sense before, but now apparently it makes even more. According to a study by psychologist John J. Skowronski and colleagues, published in the April 1998 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, judging other people--more specifically, gossiping about them--has a boomerang effect. The traits you describe in other people will be applied to you as well by the person(s) you're describing them to. Tell someone that so-and-so is a deadbeat, for example, and the person you're telling will think you're kind of shiftless yourself. The researchers have given this "common, but apparently mindless, psychological phenomenon" the name of spontaneous trait transference.
The researchers describe this transference as "irrational and largely outside of conscious awareness." Be that as it may, the gist of the study is that "when you gossip," says one of the researchers (quoted in Science News), "you become associated with the characteristics you describe, ultimately leading those characteristics to be 'transferred' to you."
This transference should be borne in mind the next time you're describing a person to some third party. You must describe that person with care. For example, tell people that "if John was any dumber he would have to be watered twice a week," and they might think that you could use a hose turned on you. Say something like "Jane loves nature in spite of what it did to her," and they might think that you got a raw deal yourself. Or refer to someone with a disparaging remark like "the wheel is spinning, but the hamster is dead," and folks might associate you too with a rodent.
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