Everything happens for a reason right? I am starting to question some things in my life. Mainly my relationship with women or the lack of. I am 23 never been in a relationship. Its never seemed to work out with any woman. I want to get married some day. Hopefully by the time I am 30. There are other things I question not been in a relationship probably gets me the most. I sure hope its not Gods plan for me to stay single all my life. Whats the point to really living. When I am around a woman I care about I feel so much better about myself. I feel this empty feeling right now.
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I rather have a bad day in the woods then a good day at work
Ever heard that phrase "plenty of fish in the sea?" Well, I'd say that 98% of the "fish" did not take my bait.
Don't rush it. Don't even try. Just be natural and do things you like to do. You'll eventually meet someone who has the same likes you do, and is not put off by the fact that you are trying to "bag her."
I got married when I was young. Then I got divorced when I was just a little older. Then I got married again when I was a lot older and am still married. Don't get married too young. Quit worrying about it.
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While you rest, someone, somewhere, is training. When you meet, you will lose.
patience...of which I have little of...is the key. like others, I rushed into a relationship,way ahead of God, and paid the fools' price for not being patient......noone ever said learning patience was easy,'cuz it ain't....
look up, not around
I was 25 when I married my 18 year old bride - but don't think that God is going to do it all for you. Its your responsibility to findyour wife -man was meant to be with a woman, marriage, thats why you feel alone when you are.
I used to think its Gods work to send a woman my way. I believe I have to go find that girl. God just knows what girl is for you if doesnt work out with this one girl move on to the next. I have a few in mind.
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I rather have a bad day in the woods then a good day at work
Let me blow another hole in my good standing Deerhunter. Remember . . .I'm just a dumb redneck from Mississippi . . . uneducated, not rich, just a plain as dirt guy . . .so remember, my opinion and 25 cents won't even buy a cup of coffee in most places.
Judging from your posts (which I have read faithfully from your very first post), I would guess that our good Lord has a protecting hand, maybe even preventing you from falling into a relationship. The reason I think that is because judging from your posts you have a lot of issues to work out. You seem so negative about everything, you seem to lack confidence or a sense of self worth, rather than bowing up and taking your responsibilities head on you seem to think in a defeated manner as if your going to try but it just isn't going to do any good.
That coupled with what possibly is a little more than "moderate" drinking . . .pot use. . . . .all together your defeating yourself IMHO.
You really need to do something positive to get yourself together and develop some sense of confidence and self worth. Be decided, and take steps to work on your own betterment. Get involved in a good church, seek councelling, seek ways to make a contribution to the betterment of something or someone. I have found that when I'm really down in the dumps that helping, and being concerned for others, for some strange reason is the best medicine.
__________________ And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.
dh1224, you ask alot of questions? do you ever put any of these ideas into action, below are some quotes from Norman Vincent Peale, he wrote a book several years ago (i believe in the 50's) entitled "the power of positive thinking". you can buy it as an audio book, very good reading or listening, i would recomend it for anyone.
Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear. Perhaps the action you take will be successful; perhaps different action or adjustments will have to follow. But any action is better than no action at all.
Change your thoughts and you change your world.
Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop the picture... Do not build up obstacles in your imagination.
Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are.
Boys and girls, there is a whole lot of wisdom going on here. DH, please pray for wisdom. I wish I had when I was your age. With that said, DH, don't try to grow up to fast here.When I was 23 I wasin a rush to get my life in gear and get going.1. Get good job, $100,000+ a year. (I'm sure I was worth it.2.Marry somehot, beautifulgirl. (I'm sure I was worth it ) 3. Build my 4500 sq foot home on 50 acres. 4. Have my 2.5 kids and live happily ever after. Well you know what?, that didn't happen. And I fought frustrated for 23 years. I wanted it my way, not Gods way. I was to blind to see that God had laid out a beautiful plan for my life, but I was to pre occupied with my plan to enjoy his. That was 23 years of my life. I did get the girl, I'm short half a kid. The other stuff didn't pan out. But now I live on Gods plan.(you are going to do it Gods way) ALL THAT TO SAY, slow down, take it easy. She will come before you know it(in Gods time, not yours) . In the mean time pray for your future wife. The harder you try it your way the more frustrated you will be, the more you turn it over to the Father the happier you will be and more importantly your Heavenly Father will be pleased with you.Hope this helps. Larry
happens for a reason
