there is a guy, good guy BTW, that i have to deal with daily, he will say something about someone, always someone that is not around, i have tried very subtle(sp) to tell him i would rather not participate, and even suggested that he take it up with the person being talked about, he'll just laugh it off, the conversation will start off like "ole so-and-so did this-and-that the other day blah blah blah, then he'll end it with huh, or what ya think? or can you believe, i will useally try to interject something good about the person, and move onto another subject...
any of you guys have a good remedy, i have been praying about it daily, i really don't want any friction between us, but i feel i have just about exhausted my limited ability in being polite with him[&o]
BTW the times i have told him that i would rather not particapatehe has kinda joked around about that, i feel bad telling this, but i'm not telling ya'll anything that i wouldn't tell him, it seems like when i tell him that i don't want to partake it will be effective for a day or two, am i just rushing progress, being to polite, do you think if i keep on with what i'm doing the situation between the two of us will improve
open to any and all suggestions
keith
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Possibly simply replying to him every time he starts this up with the phrase "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone", eventually he may learn from this or at least stop doing it with you.
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Once again, I would be an example by controlling my own actions/statements rather than trying to moderate the others actions. If , tho, it was getting on my last nerve, I would prolly let him know in no uncertain terms that I'm not in the least bit interested in his junk. . . . .but thats just me. It's just like kids sometimes . . . .some catch on real easy, while with others,just a stern look will suffice, while still others it may take a memorable experiance to get their attention.
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JUst tell him firmly that you want no part of these conversations. That if he wants to find fault with someone look at himself first. Just be very firm about it and he'll get the picture
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thanks all, very good and sound advice, i have walked away several times, and have asked to not be included, it seems effective for a day or two, i may have to be a little more assertive, once, and i think it was the best reaction i ever got from the guy, i told him "hmmpphh, thats odd, he has never said anything bad about you" and i walked off, he was very quite for 2-3 days, i don't know if it made him think about it, or if it made him feel bad...
again thanks for the advice, keith
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John 3:16
things are more like right now than they've ever been
It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.
William James
Brother; If you really want to get his attention, just reach out your hand and grasp his hand and say, This man needs our prayers and start praying a prayer that just happens to include something about not judging, gossiping, helping "us" not to fall into temption, being like Christ, ect.
He want forget it quickly.
Brother; If you really want to get his attention, just reach out your hand and grasp his hand and say, This man needs our prayers and start praying a prayer that just happens to include something about not judging, gossiping, helping "us" not to fall into temption, being like Christ, ect.
He want forget it quickly.
That works all the time, bro.Snooky!
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Brother; If you really want to get his attention, just reach out your hand and grasp his hand and say, This man needs our prayers and start praying a prayer that just happens to include something about not judging, gossiping, helping "us" not to fall into temption, being like Christ, ect.
He want forget it quickly.
ah-ha a little shock therapy, i like it
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John 3:16
things are more like right now than they've ever been
It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.
William James
dealing with character assasnation
