this girl

deerhunter1224 · 05-19-2006, 07:24 PM

There is this girl that I am intrested in. I have been praying for something to happen. I found that she is now single. This girl is one of the first girls that I cancarrya coverations with. I am good friends with her. I just dont know what to do.

The Rev · 05-19-2006, 08:02 PM

Keep on being her friend, and leave it in God's hands. She might feel the same way you do. You have to be friends first.

Porter Rockwell · 05-24-2006, 03:16 PM

As usual, I agree with Rev.

Converse, converse and converse. Find common interests. Find uncommon interests. Read scripture together. Pray together. Pray for her. Ask her to pray for you. Then you will really find out what she is really like and if this is the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Stay away from anything that would risk ruining your relationship. Treat her like a queen. Don't look at her like an object. Deal with her truthfully. Be honest. Share your dreams and aspirations. Share your troubles and concerns. Don't hide anything from her. Ask for her support in what you want to do with your life. Support her with what she wants to do with hers. Ask for support in overcoming your trials and tribulations.

Put the brakes and stop sign on anything physical except maybe hand holding ora quick kiss (And I do mean quick!) Nothing prolonged or that will entice sexual emotion or feeling. You have to find out and work with the spiritual and emotional side before you move to anything sexual (in my opinion the sex does not come until you have a union with God, but that is up to you).

You said she is "now" single. Does this imply she is divorced or just leaving a relationship? Find out what the issues behind the departure were if there was one. If there was one, is she working to correct some of the issues in her life for the break up/divorce? Find out!

God Bless,

Porter.

Alex The Hawk · 05-24-2006, 04:00 PM

Just invite her to eat out and see how she responds.

05-24-2006, 07:14 PM

After my divorce, I vowed to not to settle. So the person I met, it just had to click. I filed thru dozen people. Nothing clicked, until I met Jennifer. We had our ups and downs thats for sure. Mainly before we accepted Christ. We started the relationship strickly on sex. It really hurt us. Now, we will be getting married June 10th. We still have a connection but differently. And we are both growing closer to Christ. Only thing we regret, is all the things we did before we were saved. Cause we wished we saved it until our honeymoon. But a small matter.

So keep meeting new people, until you find one that fits like a puzzle piece you have been looking for. Don't force anything to happen. If in the beginning, you are having to force yourself to dress differently or her, or force her to enjoy things only you enjoy, then back out.

cataway · 05-24-2006, 07:53 PM

there is a thing about women that most men don't know or under stand . they are different they don't think like men don't act like men and I'm glad of it. there is one thing that a woman does and likes to do ,and that is to talk it amazeses me that they can talk as much as they do and they expect us men to talk just as much as they do . but we don't and its the one thing that they want us to do. so if you want to get her attention talkwith her. it called bonding. you may not believe it but its true.

RedAllison · 05-24-2006, 10:02 PM

Yep LORD do those gals like to flap their gums!!! [:@]But if you are out to get to know this woman then you gotta listen too that yapper of hers. The easiest way to get on a womans "comfortable list" is to keep them talking and keep them laughing. Women LOVE a man who likes to conversate and they equally love a sense of humor (perhaps even moreso). If you aren't good at conversation then one easy way to keep them talking is to "play lawyer", answer their questions with another question. That way you aren't on the spot to keep coming up with things to talk about and as long as they are runnin that yapper they think they are carrying on a conversation.

Also, just ask them alot of questions about themselves and their families. It's an easy subject, keeps the conversation rolling and makes you appear interested in them.
RA

deerhunter1224 · 05-25-2006, 02:51 PM

Its so werid I actually can talk with her. Most girls that I am or thought was intrested dont have much to say. I have no idea how she feels about me. No idea if she is a bit interested in me.