I have been avoiding this for awhile and do not feel comfortable talking amungst local friends with this for some unbeknowest reason...I find my self here lately in a hard struggle of faith and belife...My wife has been raised Chruch of Christ for her whole life 23 years...I however have been raised in a non-demoninational church my whole life 25 years...mainly www.southplainschurch.com . My wife is begining to question her belifes in the church as she has attened several services with me. I do not want to cause issues with each other but do not know how to explain things to her. Thus this poses my question...If I can not explain to her to satisfy her need to know how strong is my own faith?
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I have been avoiding this for awhile and do not feel comfortable talking amungst local friends with this for some unbeknowest reason...I find my self here lately in a hard struggle of faith and belife...My wife has been raised Chruch of Christ for her whole life 23 years...I however have been raised in a non-demoninational church my whole life 25 years...mainly www.southplainschurch.com . My wife is begining to question her belifes in the church as she has attened several services with me. I do not want to cause issues with each other but do not know how to explain things to her. Thus this poses my question...If I can not explain to her to satisfy her need to know how strong is my own faith?
As a person who has been in a failed marriage, i take total personal responsibility for it. Because I am supposed to be the leader of the household, and supposed to be the Spiritual leader of the household and failed, no matter what happened. I am not saying your heading down that path. But I think from your post you seem to understand its your responsibility to be the priest of your house. And you seem concerned by it.
My exwifedid some bad stuff. But bottom line is I didn't put my faith in Christ, I didn't believe the scripture, I didn't attend Church. So no matter what she did, I didn't do the right thing.
Bud, I just suggest doing what your doing. Consult with your pastor, hire out Christian marriage councelers. Do whatever it takes. I wish I trusted more in God, or I wouldn't have lost my first wife.
But it sounds as if your taking the right steps. Your seeking, sounds as if your praying. Some smart guys here, and maybe be able to explain things in a little different light than yourself. I know I have a hard time communicating how I feel.
The Bible has the answers--you just have to look for them. Human beings have a tendency to want to follow what feels good, what sounds good, what makes us happy. We don't like to hear that we may be wrong or mistaken. All to often this will guide someone in their religious beliefs--I think that's why we have so many different "religions" in this country, and you can find one that will tell you that you are fine and God loves you and you'll go to heaven regardless of how you live or what you believe--they cater to human nature, not God's word.
I have no idea where your wife attends, but I suggest she talk to someone there and ask questions. If she can't get scriptural answers, she might try going somewhere else. Just because a building has "Church ofChrist" on it doesn't always mean that the Truth is told there. On the other hand, if she gets scriptural answers but just doesn't like what she hears, the problem isn't with the congregation she is attending.
Study the Bible--the answers are there. Lots of debate goes on here, and you will see everything from plain scriptural referances to opinions stated as if they were scripture to "interpretations" that some will say requires a special gift to understand. My advice is to take the Bible for what it says--God won't steer you wrong.
Chad
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The last four letters in Republican........I Can
The last four letters in Democrats.........Rats
If she can't get scriptural answers, she might try going somewhere else. Just because a building has "Church ofChrist" on it doesn't always mean that the Truth is told there. On the other hand, if she gets scriptural answers but just doesn't like what she hears, the problem isn't with the congregation she is attending.
Chad I am going thru some intense PremarriatialChristian counceling right now. All the scriptures Ihave been studyingpretty well points me that I (husband) is responsible for my household and really wherethe women should be getting the answers.
All the scriptures Ihave been studyingpretty well points me that I (husband) is responsible for my household and really wherethe women should be getting the answers.
Big Country,
Thanks Big Country.
I totally feel responsible for my wife's spiritual welfare.And it's very difficult right now becaus eshe is going through the menopause I do beleive. At this time women need much mercy and understanding.
Chuck7
Chad I am going thru some intense PremarriatialChristian counceling right now. All the scriptures Ihave been studyingpretty well points me that I (husband) is responsible for my household and really wherethe women should be getting the answers.
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That's a tough one BC. This is primarily my opinion, so take it for what it's worth. The husband has already stated he doesn't know if he can explain. The big problem, again in my opinion, is the difference in beliefs. My thoughts are, if the husband can't explain why he believes what he does, both need to do a lot of studying and ask a lot of questions. With them having different beliefs, they might want to talk with the preacher or elders at their separate congregations and compare notes; or better yet both go and speak with both sides. Get solid scriptural answers and study them. Be sure the answers are scriptural--don't take the word of a preacher, elder, teacher, etc. to be fact just because of their position.
I do believe the husband should be the leader of the household, and that includes the spiritual leader. He cannot be the leader if he doesn't know what that leadership is comprised of.It's one of the problems that happens whenmarried couples have different beliefs, or when one or the other has no strong foundation. It can really be tough when the husband won't take a stand and be that leader, or the wife won't allow it. The wife has to submit--the husband cannot lead if the wife will not follow. It's a huge responsibility, because the husband has to know the answers in order to be a leader, and if he is wrong he could lead his wife and their children down the wrong path.
Chad
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"We can have no '50-50' allegiance in this country. Either a man is an American and nothing else, or he is not an American at all."-- Theodore Roosevelt
A wise man's heart is at his right hand; but a fool's heart at his left. Ecclesiasties 10:2
The last four letters in American..........I Can
The last four letters in Republican........I Can
The last four letters in Democrats.........Rats
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