Today I recieved the death certificate for my marriage. After 16 years, a judge has issued a divorce to end my marriage. It is very difficult for me to approach this is any other manner than a death. On this day, I mourn.
It is my request that you would pray for my ex-wife, my daughter and myself.
You have the prayers for all parties concerned, I felt the same way after my first marriage ended after 17 years and 3 kids, the one good thing for me was I got full custody of the kids.
It gets better with time, I am very happy in my second and last marriage, we are going on 15 years now.
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The Tazman aka Martin Price
Proud father of a Devil Dog
Brother, I know the feeling. It about killed me. I lost 30lbs anddeveloped diabetes.I will pray for you. Not much worse than a divorce.Just don't, go out and do something like I did and get a big ole tattoo to remind you of it. Later you might regret it.
If you ever need to just talk, give me a PM.
I remember 3 years ago when I got thatpaper saying officially divorced. It was kinda surreal. I didnt' know how to feel. So I just sat in my living room by myself for hoursandstarred. It was kinda like time stood still. Later, I cried, I laughed, I made up my mind it was for the best, then called her, and yelled at her, called her and told her I missed her. Yea, I took it hard.
I've been down that road myself. Happened almost 9 years ago. I even went to some counseling. Caught my wife cheating several times and she was an alcoholic. I know, that the one thing that helped me the most, was that I found a support group for divorced and seperated. They had meetings twice a month. Everyone there was going through the same thing I was. We all talked together, laughed together and cried together. It really helped having people that understood. We'd all get together and go bowling, to the movies, christmas parties, out to eat, etc... It was actually sorta fun. It really helped me.
If things get too bad, see if you can find one of those groups in your area. They are usually affiliated with a church. the one I went to was through a Catholic church and I'm not even Catholic.
O6 I hope you don't take this the wrong way and I certainly DON'T say it to offend you, but if your ex doesn't want to be with you (for WHATEVER reason, hers or yours or whoevers) then the divorce can be a blessing. I am sorry for the pain you are going through (and will continue with I am sure) but take solace in the fact that you can now go on andyour life continues thankfully.
Likewise I can't speak from first hand experience about a divorce through my eyes as a husband. But I CAN speak about divorce through the eyes of a child who was only 5 when my parents divorced. I didn't understand it while young, but I eventually grew up and realized that life is hard enough when you are happy. If you are NOT happy (and that includes BOTH the wife and husband) then life can be outright miserable and that robs not only you of happiness, but also robs your children of enjoying the true people that each of their parents truly are.
I love my wife and while I make light and poke fun of marriage from time too time I SERIOUSLY mean it when I say, "If my wife doesn't want me then I am GONE!" And gone for just the reasons I gave you above. I wouldn't want my 3 kids suffering through umpteen years of a miserable marriage. People who can't get along are MUCH worse when they are all but forced to endure a marriage for a multitude of reasons. You likewise can be a better parent too your children when you are happy, even if that means meeting the real "Mrs. Right" and starting a new life together.
Good luck, cheer up you'll find someone who completes you, and yes I will most certainly pray for you tonight!
RA
Death of a Marriage
