women not married

deerhunter1224 · 02-05-2006, 10:44 AM

When you are single going after a woman. Could that be lusting? Once you get that girl she is your girlfriend. You do stuff like make out, some sexual things, but you dont have sex. Is that wrong to do since you arent married?

MOTOWNHONKEY · 02-05-2006, 11:10 AM

My dad always told me, "How would you feel in Christ walked in. " A simple answer but yet you get the point. When you are at your age and all you think about is girls it is tuff.I think a biblical answer for you would be making out is sex and certainly anything beyond that is way over the limit. I hope you can tuff it out until your married because you will have a great respect for yourself, a testimony to your children, and a whole lot of character to share with others.

Rebel Hog · 02-05-2006, 01:50 PM

1Cor7:34
[34] There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

deerhunter1224 · 02-05-2006, 02:46 PM

So lets see here Rebel Hog. So that verse is saying you arent suppose to please your gf or bf before marriage. If thats right WOW! What can you just sit there and talk? Cant kiss, hold hands, hung, etc.

Rebel Hog · 02-05-2006, 03:42 PM

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So lets see here Rebel Hog. So that verse is saying you arent suppose to please your gf or bf before marriage. If that's right WOW! What can you just sit there and talk? Cant kiss, hold hands, hung, etc.

No, holding hands is asign ofaffection and not sex.
No, hugging in a respectful way is not having sex. Hugging her and rubbing her all overyou is not respectful.
No, a kiss with unparted lips is not having sex or foreplay. Kissing with parted lips and touching tongues is foreplay.

Brother, to each his own, you reap what you sow!

deerhunter1224 · 02-05-2006, 08:36 PM

All I have to say is WOW again. If I ever get a gf till her I cant kiss her on the lips. I wont have a gf very long.

Rebel Hog · 02-05-2006, 09:03 PM

Brother, to each his own, you reap what you sow!

deerhunter1224 · 02-05-2006, 09:47 PM

Ok rebel do you care to explain yourself. You keep saying that. If I do sexual things with this girl. Chances are she wont break up with me. Now tell her you cant kiss her because its wrong. She is going to think am gay or something. I would like you to explain yourself.

Soilarch · 02-05-2006, 11:11 PM

Deerhunter, I don't think rebel hog told you can't kiss her...he meant not to KISS her. (That's sound very vague, but we all know there's a difference between the two.) I'll pose a question to you: If a girl will only date you if you make-out...is that the kind of girl you want to date. For me that has always been a problem that has solved itself. If a girl becomes disinterested because of my "physical standards" it sucks, but it tells me where her heart truely was. Find a girl who's hard after God and you'll likely get more respect and apprecation from the her for the things you don't do.

And on a side note...as things develop and there's meaning behind your relationship a simple holding hands or her holding on to you during a movie is more than satisfying.

Leep · 02-05-2006, 11:29 PM

Deerhunter> Our pastor and his wife have 2 fine girls and a fine son-- they are great people and he is the best pastor i ever had-and that is sayin gsomething.
Both girls- we watched them grow up- went to school... found boyfriends-Christian boyfriends...and both are now married and i can assure you that they both waited until they were married before any hanky panky.
You might hear some argue that it is good if one partner knows something about Love/Sex as it will make it easier on them,, but I believe that it is a wonderful thing to discover those things together...
They all seem very happy -now only the son is left-but hes younger and not in any hurry.
Good Luck:
Leep out: