How do you come to peace with yourself

burniegoeasily · 10-07-2005, 10:05 AM

How do you come to peace with yourself after doing something you regreat. I recently went overboard when punishing my oldest daughter for misbehaving at school. I did not do anything major, just personally felt I made too big of an issue about it with her. It has rolled off her back, yet it just keeps eating at me. We have talked about it, and she understands. I guess im one of those people who tend to worry and make more of things than is really there. I normally pray about things I have said, or done that others might not find becoming of me and normally it helps. This time I think it is tearing at me more because Its my baby girl. I just hate that feeling.

Rebel Hog · 10-07-2005, 10:22 AM

Burnie, in todays times to many are reading Doctor Spock instead of the Bible!

Prov.22:15
[15] Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Prov.29:15-17
[15] The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
[16] When the wicked are multiplied, transgression increaseth: but the righteous shall see their fall.
[17] Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.

Chuck7 · 10-07-2005, 10:33 AM

Burnie,
I do that often,
I would demonstrate meekness and mercy by going to your child and asking forgivemess. They will never forget that. I had to do that to one of my students today. In Florida there is great pressure on kids passing that we teachers sometimes take it out on the students. When I apologize the students respect tme alot more and behaviors even diminish.
Chuck

PS Lot's of coffee makes me feel like a Johnny on the spot drill sergeant.Whenever I drink it my wife warn" NOw don't get in trouble today."

Tazman · 10-07-2005, 10:46 AM

Burnie I feel that any parent that is a good parent at times will do what you have done, since you have already spoke to her on this you have taken the first steps in true repentance, you have recognized that you went to far, you have confessed your disgression to her and asked her forgiveness which obviously she has given. You have prayed about it, you are in the final phase of forgiveness (although it has already been granted by the one that matters), that is of forgiving your self, you will when you prove to yourself that you won't do it again.

God bless you for being a parent that is willing to discipline their child, move on Brother all is well.

Alex The Hawk · 10-07-2005, 11:34 AM

You have to becareful with that brother, do not show weakness to your child, they are like sponges and pick up the most minimal weakness in youand
they will use it against you to get what they want, I have never hit any of my children but rather used a reward sytem if they did great and lots of blessings and praise, today we have very well behave men with their children being raised the same way, but when you loose your cool don't apologise and don't show weakness, let them wonder if something worse is coming if they do it again.
This is called behavior modification, it is unheard of in the Western society and it is the root of such liberal behavior when the behavior is not corrected.
Today Children are being pampered in teh USA to the Maximum, they carry cell phones, at age 16 they are driving sports car worth more than houses, they eat in their bedroom and not share with the family at meals, they hang around with whom ever they please, they take drugs, they curse at their elders,smoke cigarretes drink alcohol, and have sex an earlier age each decade.

These is all due to laziness or lack of guts on the parents side, if you corrected her, she is not going to die from it or hate you, when she grows up she will love you for it.
Always remember to lay hands on her and bless her before she goes to school and at night hug and kiss and say I love you, that is lacking in 99% of the homes.

Shalom

burniegoeasily · 10-07-2005, 12:08 PM

Thanks everyone. I did speak with her and told her I might have over reacted but it did not change the situation. She still was held to the punishment for getting in trouble at school, but I did appoligize for blowing it out of proportion. She told me she understood and that she should have not done what she did to get in the situation. She told me she understood why I was so angery. So the idea of her not forgiving me is not my issue. I just have that sick feeling in my gut that just wont go away. With prayer and time It will subside. I guess im just use to being the cool headed one in our family. I believe communication, and make sure my children understand when they get in trouble why it is they are punished as well as making sure they know i love them. I guess I have other things on my mind that have been eating at me as well that just helps amplify my mood. We are getting the run around on a house deal that was suppose to be complete this week. The guy buying our old house has been causing some problems. So I guess not all of my mood is due to my daughter. I guess since she is a very important part of my life, she is the one im dwelling on.. Sorry for the rant, It helps to vent. Thanks and God bless all.

renfrowridge · 10-07-2005, 01:20 PM

I have to agree with Alex on this one. Just make sure she knows you love her and let it go. one more thing always step back and take 30 min or 1 hour to think before you blow your top it was not her fault that the guy buying your house is screwing you around. But I bet she knows the pressure you are under and understands itkids are smarter than you think

burniegoeasily · 10-07-2005, 01:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: renfrowridge

it was not her fault that the guy buying your house is screwing you around. But I bet she knows the pressure you are under and understands itkids are smarter than you think

I need to clarify. The house thing was not what made me over react, That issue just recently came about. I think it has simply amplified this bad feeling.

renfrowridge · 10-07-2005, 01:34 PM

Sorry bro but I still bet she understand more than you think. you saidshe understood why you did what you did like I said she understands. Sound like you have raised a great girl and very smart one tolet it go and just love her that will mean more to her than anything. sometime you just got to be a parent and it is not easy

cardeer · 10-07-2005, 03:05 PM

you did right by talking to her, I always pray with the person I wronged .I also need to ask for forgiveness from God and for his help ih having a more biblical mind when responding to lifes trials