Got divorced in 2002. I had no quams cause she was unfaithful. but as I put on another post. I recently becamed saved at Easter. I want to do God's will. I have read Corritheans where Paul explains if you have a wife and she wants to reconcile take her back. But I have no feeling for her. And the Ex is knocking at the dorr begging again. But she is broke and has a history of comeing back when she's broke. Also my pastor said he would agree with Paul if we were both Christians at that time. He said I was born again and my past is my past. Now he said he has no problem with me remarrying my new lady if she is indeed a Women of Christ.
Big Country,
This is a hard question. I myself had to deal with that one.I fasted for 2 days and sought God. You will need to hear from him concerning His will for your life. You are no longer your own. You belong to God.
Sincerely,
Chuck
Never been married my brother, however i have seen many marriages and I personally have been in alot of relationships. When some women are broken they go to where they were comfortable and somebody they know. If she was single for over a year then i would say work it out, if this is recent that she is now single and coming back, i heed caution. Dont take her back, time has to heal people to do the right thing. You have to be steadfast my brother. Let god do his work But you have to do yours when the time is right.
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This is mostly my opinion even tho there is some scripture to back it up . .which I don't have right now. If she were broke off in a marriage with me, and she went out and had a relationship with another man, I would not reconcile with her. I would forgive any rift between us , but to me it would be an abomination to take her back to my bed. This was God's way in the OT, and I know that we are a NT people, but many of the laws of that day were backed by infinite wisdom. I feel that there would be less pain all the way around to look at it this way. I'm not speaking from a positionof inexperiance in this matter.
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In the vast majority of cases, divorce and remarriage is condemned as sin in the Bible. However, marital infidelity IS an exception to this. Add to that the fact that you have since become saved and you're basically starting over. I'm with Leaf -- don't take her back.
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Personaly I don't see where the question is.
Jesus said if she commited adultry you are free to divorce, you did divorce.
The only reason to marry or re-marry is Love.
You no longer Love her. Why would you even think of re-marring her if you no longer lover her?
If you don't love her, DONT re-marry her.
Big Country from what I has seen of your posts, no offense intended, stick close to your pastor. You seem to be like a lot of new Christians in that you think you must bear to weight of the whole worlds sins by trying to be perfect and absorb every offense thrown at you.
You can't do it, it took Jesus to do that.
Christian doesn't translate into the english language as door-mat. You aren't meant to bewalked all over.
May God bless you and yours.
Thanks
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Well, my pastor and I have discussed it several times and both are convinced,I have not obligation to my Ex. I am always skeptical even of his ideas. Kinda like to really make sure. In fact, he is of the understanding that it would be sinful for me to take back on an unbeliever like my ex wife.
The problem comes I guess of my new girlfriend of almost 2 years. I love her, I do. She is 35 and never been married, no children, and her clock is ticking out of control. Here I am just wanting to be slow and easy.She does deserve somesort of commitment.Ok, my girlfriend said she did accept Christ 3 years ago, but didn't follow it up with baptism. Well, she never really went to church or tried to read the Bible. She talked but thats as far as it went. Well around early March, she broke up with me cause I never asked her to marry me. Ok, I find God, and accept Christ as my Savior and hand my will over to him. She sees this peace in me. She sees this difference. All the sudden, she wants to meet me again to just go to church. Great I figure. But my pastor and great friend, both are very leary of her. They are just not sure she has truely accepted Jesus Christ as her Savior. So we have (mainly her) has been talking marriage lately. So feeling the need for backup, I call my pastor. We have a meeting, He is worried that she is doing all this for a ring and not for her salvation. But we have came up with a plan. First off, he wants to give us premarital Christian councelling, he feels I will learn her true intention, gain trust in her, and see if she loves Jesus Christ, the way I do. Ok, I discussed this with her. She is little crushed. Her sister has moved out of thiere townhome, and she needs a place to live. So naturally, she hoped for a early Fall wedding to move in with me. I feel horrible for her. I just pray for God's will to be done. After a divorce of a marriage of 7 years, I just don't think I could handle another one. Thats the reason I want to make sure that this is God's will. Cause without him both involved in our lives, I just don't see us having a prayer at making it work.
Thanks all the responses. I figured one or two would have been, "you have to take her back". There are some ministers I know that would say that. And of course bring up the Old Testiment where Hosea had an unfaithful wife and was commanded to buy her back. I think its Hosea.
Divorce, remarriage Dilemma
