Hey all! I have a dilema, atleast it is for me. My brother, who has spent 10 years in prison for manslaughter has been out of prison for about 3 years now. He had llived with me probably about 10 times in the 3 years off and on, he just bounces around and when he has nowhere to go he comes to my house. My brother is very violent, not towards me, but in nature. He probably still does co-caine and he hangs with the wrong crowed. I once had him saved last year, and it didnt work, because it didnt change his heart. Now, he wants to move back in with me for a little while till he can find another place. I am really struggling in letting him do so. He is my brother and I love him, but i cannot have sin in my home. I prayed about it and lifted this problem up to god, becuase i feel i cannot be the Hero in this situation in changing his life around. What should I do??
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I'll pray for you. I cannot imagine what you are going through. I love my brother, but he's easy to love and to care for, because he loves in return and is an awesome Christian. My wife's brother lived with us one time for about a month. He was getting back on his feet after a rocky period in his life. We sat down and together made some "rules" we didn't call them that but just let him know that he was expected at our family devos and prayers, andgoing to church and doing good was expected. No smoking or anything else, and that kind of stuff. It went well and now he's doing pretty good on his own. Mabey if you have a good "sit-down" with him and lay out the "rules" and with God's help he will turn it around. I sure don't know the right answer for you, but I will pray, because God does know.
He is my brother and I love him, but i cannot have sin in my home. I prayed about it and lifted this problem up to god, becuase i feel i cannot be the Hero in this situation in changing his life around. What should I do??
Jesus said catch 'em..he'd clean 'em... as for sin in your house, it's there anyway.. because you are human. I understand your dilema, but show me where Jesus said to turn away ANYBODY?
True. I havent ever turned him around. But some things he does, is just irresponsible!! Leaving the front door open when no one is home, leaving the air cranked up all day with no one home, t.v on, messes everywhere, eats all the food, doesnt contribute with bills or food or anyhthing. I think i am just going to have to sit down with him tonight.
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Turkey Fan,
I would not do it. I would go with my gut feeling. Even among drug users....chemical users are not to be trusted. Sorry if I appear too tough but I have personnally knew a few. You need to try to get him to go to a clean up program.
CHuck
My brother is very violent, not towards me, but in nature. He probably still does co-caine and he hangs with the wrong crowed.
My personal opinion is that it is dangerous to have him around while this is still going on. Pray for wisdom and the courage to do what God says you should do.
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I think Chuck summed it up. That is what I have learned with several drug addict aunts and uncles.
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Yes, The same here. The programs appear to be the only way to break the addiction. I have worked with many. They have one thing in mine and will do anything to get the drugs. Cocaine is a very violent drug and only a few find deliverance. I know among mariquana users they don't want them around .They are very violent and steal. They are out of control and need professional help.
Chuck
Talking from alot of experience here.
See guys, as a new Christian, this is hard for me to understand God's will. Jesus said, if you get hit on the cheek, turn the other for him to hit, (kinda what he said). Forgive over and over. He also talked alot about worry of possessions. This is your brother, and a huge part of me is telling you, no way, he had his chance. Another is saying, "what would Jesus do?".
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