Forums are a social gathering place visited for the most part by people who wish to share ideas about any array of subjects. Unfortunately, much like a playground there will always be some individual with problems who comes to prove their self in one manner or another.
It is the ideal place to do it because of the anonymity of the venue. People can not see you; they have to take you at your word on who you are, what you do and most other things. Ones ability to produce volumes of text is only limited by their desire to reach out and communicate and in the bully"s case, strike out at others.
Bullies pick on someone else as a way to get power, or to get their way, or to feel important.
Some are just looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or a way to get what they want. Most bullies are trying to make themselves feel more important - when they pick on someone else, it makes them feel big and powerful.
Some bullies come from families where everyone is angry all the time. They may think that being angry; calling names, and pushing people (on the forum figuratively) around is a normal way to act.
Most bullies don't understand or care about the truth or feelings of others.
"The intention of bullying behavior is purposeful, rather than accidental. The goal is to actually gain control over another."
"Their families also report trouble sharing their feelings and usually rate themselves as feeling less close to each other."
"It appears that bullying is not an isolated behavior, but a sign that they may be involved in more violent behaviors," said Duane M.D.
"Bullying, as a behavior that is inflicted with the desire to harm another, seems to be an important marker for violence-related behaviors."
Much like the playground there are ways of dealing with these bullies. Some people just go somewhere else like S-Cat did. He got feed up and left because he just did not want to deal with the individual. Other like Muley69 hit the ignore button. A simple but a limited way of dealing with such bullies.
Other like myself will stay, undaunted and post when they want to and at times have to deal with the bully.
The nice thing is that a bully is only effective as their intended victim allows. I am not intimidated watching the bully go off with his BS and page long replies to a simple two sentence post, but I think it is effecting the forum.
A bully may defend theirs position as they attack others with "it"s sarcasm" use to bring out the points of the debate. The truth of the matter is that most visitors the forum see them for what they are. Bullies who have found a venue where they can they attack anyone who disagrees with they, use any manner of lies, misquote, out of context quote and filibustering to ply their trade.
What is the best way to deal with this type of individual?
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Now you have to picture a combination of PeeWEE Herman and Wally Cox but with less muscle tone, trying to be intimidating None of this is funny! Message edited by Cougar Mag -- 1/7/2005 1:16:42 AM >/b]
Well on the playground the best way to take care of a bully is to confront them.More like punch em in the nose.
On the internet all you can do is ignore them,it gets old picking on someone if you do't get a rise out of them. It will quickly become obvious to others the guys a jerk.The mods will also planly see who the person is that is causing problems.
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You're only one post away from a federal watch list.
If someone hits you, you hit 'em back. I, for one, enjoy a good argument. If someone is running his/her mouth just to hear the sound of their voice, I'll scroll down to the next post. I don't have a problem with bullies. Fight to the finish, and then move on.
MR4PT make a fist man he is going to kick you but.
HIT HIM HIT HIM
I did like to fight a lot now I am getting older so you stay very sore after any battle at all. I think fighting is something that needs to be done to make a pecking order. Just like all animals in the world.
Be careful of who you call a bully. Some people are sociopaths who really aren't concerned what others think of them... like me.[:-]
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The Bully and the playground.
