A different perspective regarding decency in the media. If you were watching tv , lets say at the time of the superbowl and saw a breast and then a Viagra commercial , and your kids asked what was that under her shirt , and what was that commercial for ? How would you explain it ? Wouldn't you have an easier time explaining a breast to a child than a pill for men with erectile dysfunction ? Would you tell the truth and say its because when daddy wants to have sex with mommy he needs help getting a hard on ? Or think of some quick white lie and change the subject ? A breast is simple to explain , its a body part , like a finger or an arm. What is more so called potentially damaging to a child , lying or explaining viagra or a breast ? I know that there will be some who say its the parents choice as to when or what to explain to their child , but what if they saw the same thing at a friends house ?
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Hypothetical questions are wonderful, there are no incorrect answers!! I am the oldest of 11 kids, we grew up during the 50s and 60s. My Mom and Dad fielded a thousand questions in a (usually) tactful manner, yet there were times when the answer was, "You'll find out when you get older" and that was enough. I raised 3 sons in the 70s and 80s and applied the same doctrine to them, and now that my 8 year old grandaughter is my responsibility, it is being practiced again.
While something may be embarrasing to you (for whatever reason) it is an entirely innocent question to a child. If you make a big deal of it, blow it entirely out of proportion, you are the loser. Answer as honestly as you can, but don't make a big deal out of it then get on with your life. The probability is the child will accept a very general answer and forget it happened. How about you?
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RE: How would you explain it ?
I'm a reproductive physiologist...I'm sure my daughter would be bored after the first 2 sentences or completely focused, so either way it's a win-win deal for dad...
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When she was a young girl, Corrie ten Boom once asked her father a difficult question, the answer for which she would not be able to understand and the reality of which she would not be able to bear. In her book, The Hiding Place, she describes his answer:
He turned to look at me, as he always did when answering a question, but to my surprise he said nothing. At last he stood up, lifted his traveling case from the rack over our heads, and set it on the floor.
"Will you carry it off the train, Corrie?" he said.
I stood up and tugged at it. It was crammed with the watches and spare parts he had purchased that morning.
"It"s too heavy," I said.
"Yes," he said. "And it would be a pretty poor father who would ask his little girl to carry such a load. It"s the same way, Corrie, with knowledge. Some knowledge is too heavy for children. When you are older and stronger you can bear it. For now you must trust me to carry it for you."
And I was satisfied. More than satisfied"wonderfully at peace. There were answers to this and all my hard questions"for now I was content to leave them in my father"s keeping.
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Coastie -- That is such a good response. It is so true. When I was 12. I remember when my Mom told me about how two married people have sex. She didn't mince words or use terms like "weenie" (my personal favorite), but laid it all out. This was in the lat sixties and I still found it unbelievable that MY parents did that weird thing to have babies. I asked Dad to verify it and he was really embarrassed. I think they had an argument that night.
How would you explain it ?
