My sister in law is visiting today. She has a little girl ... a bit under 2 years old. On the drive in last night from the airport we were talking parenting. She asked when I started spanking my kids and I told her heck, from very early on ... when they were old enough to understand what I was saying. She said her daughter doesn't get spanked to ammount to anything, and that she never listens to anything her mommy and daddy tell her.
Well, last night we get to my house and my wife is surprised and tickled that he sister flew in to see her etc etc. Her little girl starts going through EVERYTHING like little kids do, you know, but thing is, you tell her NOT to do something and my sister in law was right - the little girl does not listen, at all. She climed up into the chairs at the dining table like 20 times.
At one point I said " Hey, do you really mind if she does that ? "
Sister in law responds "No, I don't really want her climing around the dining table"
And I said "well, she is again, and she has a steak knife in her hand"
Sister in law freaks, but no spanking and shortly afterwards the little girl is back to climing around the kitchen again.
At about 2 years old you CANNOT reason with a child - they are incapable of that. They DO know what you are saying though, the intent of what you are saying, but they'll ignore you over - its human nature to do what you want to do regardless 9humans are selfish beings). That little girl needs a warning, and one she understands, and the next time she does whatever it is, a hard spanking on those little chubby legs to drive the point home.
What point ? Listen to Mommy and Daddy. If she does NOT get dicipline, she'll continue growing up with the knowledge that she can really do whatever she pleases regadless of what others say. Humans are also creatures of habit - bad ones as well as good ones.
Don't get me wrong, the little girl isn't a demon ..... I just don't think she listens to her mommy any. Sister in law said at dinner she'll throw her food everywhere too - that should be really fun to sit through tonight !!
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My younger brother's son was like that until he turned about 6 years old . My insane ex-sis was a firm believer in time out and spare the rod . The kid was bratty and intolerable . Once she was out of the picture my bro came to his senses and started bringing the rod back into the picture . The kid is now well behaved and welcome anywhere .
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Don't get me wrong, the little girl isn't a demon ..... I just don't think she listens to her mommy any. Sister in law said at dinner she'll throw her food everywhere too - that should be really fun to sit through tonight !!
Kids will always push the boundries& control.(Thats why god made parents)
But i agree they have to know there is consaquences to there acts& actions good& bad .( more ten verbal if nessary)
Like Not lisining etc( im suprised some kids make it thew childhood - but i guess some dont.
Like some of my own grandkids.
You run away from parent & into the street etc at 2 yrs , egnore parents , suddenly act like its a game& your a deaf mute......
That is not the time to reason, bargin or anything else espessly when its repeated& repeated.
But i have been knowen to be MEAN?lol Grrrr[>:]
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If she does NOT get dicipline, she'll continue growing up with the knowledge that she can really do whatever she pleases regadless of what others say. Humans are also creatures of habit - bad ones as well as good ones.
This is so true. Let the kid run wild and they will be wild. They may eventually grow out of it, but I've seen first hand that the bratiness and not listening eventually turns into a bitter almost hateful disrespect toward the parents. I think this happens because kids learned at an early age that the parent was wrong about everything because they learned to not listen to them.
I think your sister-inlaw is in for a heck of a few years ahead of her.
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If she does NOT get dicipline, she'll continue growing up with the knowledge that she can really do whatever she pleases regadless of what others say. Humans are also creatures of habit - bad ones as well as good ones.
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I'd gently sit her down, put both hands on her shoulders, get in her face, and with my 'battle' face and a raised voice, tell her in no uncertain terms that her behavior will NOT be tolerated.
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Grrrr[>:]
