With all the talk lately of schools and whatnot, I thought I'd throw this in the Politics room. Sorry if this is the wrong forum, but I need some advice.
My two kids are from my first marriage. I have split custody so I take them to school several times a week. It's a 40 minute drive and often I am a few minutes late. Even though my son gets passes from the office, his teacher counts them as tardies. The teacher contacted my ex (who is a teacher too, btw), and threatened a detention if he was late again. Yesterday I get a call from my ex that I need to pick my son up at 4p at the school for the detention he got and she wasn't going to do it, even though she's a mile and a half from the school and home at that time of day. So I had to cancel meetings and rush out of work early to pick my son up. No big deal. It was my fault that he got the detention, not his.
Here's my beef though and where I need advice:
He wasn't late again, but got a detention anyway. I found out about the detention an hour before I had to pick him up. Thinking this was odd, I confronted my ex about it. She and his teacher decided that the best thing for me was to make me leave work on a moment's notice in order to "teach me a lesson". Needless to say, I'm quite aggrivated by this ordeal. I am going to call his teacher, but haven't quite decided how to confront her. There is no talking to the ex so she will never understand that she put the well being of her child second to the need to control me. I think that the principal, superintendent, governor, whoever needs to know about this teacher's actions. What if I was in a meeting until 8pm and didn't get the message? My son would have still been at school and I probably would have been blamed for leaving him there. Legally, I'm not sure what I can do.
Sorry for the long winded explanation. Thanks for any advice.
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RE: Need some help please (school issues)
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Here's my beef though and where I need advice:
He wasn't late again, but got a detention anyway. I found out about the detention an hour before I had to pick him up. Thinking this was odd, I confronted my ex about it. She and his teacher decided that the best thing for me was to make me leave work on a moment's notice in order to "teach me a lesson".
As a teacher I can say many parent Tee me off on a daily basis by being irresponsible (not pointing a finger at you), but to punish a parent/kid with out cause is beyond obserd. Sounds more like a pay back from the ex with a co worker. Id take up the issue with the ex and then take up the issue with the administration to find out what was the reason for the punishment. The teacher needs to answer some questions. If there was no legit cause for the detention Id raise a Holy stink.
Thats just me as a parent and a teacher talking here.
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Immediately go above the teacher's head. Try the principal or if need be the local superintendant. There is absolutely no way in hell I would put up with this crap.
If you were late on purpose or simply a lazy slob then the teacher's right, if you're pressed for time and this is unavoidable I would make sure that this particular teacher knew you were going to go for the throat if it continues.
Immediately go above the teacher's head. Try the principal or if need be the local superintendant. There is absolutely no way in hell I would put up with this crap.
If you were late on purpose or simply a lazy slob then the teacher's right, if you're pressed for time and this is unavoidable I would make sure that this particular teacher knew you were going to go for the throat if it continues.
Ditto , report the teacher .
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RE: Need some help please (school issues)
badshot,
I think you should talk to the teacher. You stated that the teacher was counting your son's tardies---which implies to me that your other child & teacher are OK with the lateness because they understand the situation.
This seems to be a personal conflict, and in actuality it may not be the teacher's relationship with you, but rather her class---ie, after a disruption they are unruly for an extended amount of time, which is costing her teaching moments. But it does sound as though she's being petty, with your family's best interest not at heart...
Personally, I would:
1) Talk to the teacher. Get everything in the open---because your child is taught daily by your teacher, not the superintendent or principal.
2) If the meeting with your son's teacher goes horribly bad, then go over her head---and let her know about it. She may wisen up and realize that talking with you, the parent, is much better than a nasty note in her file...
3) If neither of those two meetings work, write a nice "letter to the editor" of the local paper. They love to print editorials which they can follow up on, whereby the paper investigates a little deeper and may find "larger" issues with the teacher and school system...
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I would definetly make it clear to the techer your not happy with how she handled the situation, but i would be catious of really getting after her as it could make the situation worse for your child in the class.
I would also make it known to the principle anyways, the fact he wasn't late agian means he souldn't have gotten a detention. The principal is usually the one that okays the detention the teacher suggests. I would also bring up the issue of you not being notified, if you have split custody you should be notified of everything about your children along with your ex.
When i was in school i was in a simialar situation were before school i had barn chores to do and was late to school frequent, the teacher wrote me up and when the principal found out i still had a A in the class and wasn't a disterbance it was the end of the issue.
Need some help please (school issues)
