Powerfisher
Most of use use 80 to 150 gr I personally am of the opinion that when you get over 135 gr the rest of the powder just provides a cushion for the bullet, which some times can help accuracy it also adds to both recoil and pressure [ it adds to the pressure in the same way as a heavier bullet.
You can hear many different stories about a lot of bullets, I think the truth is bullets get blamed for buck fever a lot.
I have used SW's ever since they came out,I use the regular 250 gr and the 200gr 40 cal in a 50 cal sabot only use the bonded ones on elk size animals, I must admit I like the 250 Gold Dot best but the SW is still what I use in two of the places I hunt where I might have a 200 yds shot. The only bullet I have had a problem with is a cast bullet which penciled through the middle of one lung and the front 1/8 of the other I had to track that deer farther than any other except one I did not hit quite right with a bow.
As far as theBarnes and the other expensive bullets go they are very good and very expensive[I must admit to keeping some 260 Nosler partition bullets handy for tracking boar if necessary] but the truth is accuracy is what is important and you need to worry about how accurate a bullet is out of the gun you are going to use it in first.
Those cheap Gold Dots do the best job of dropping a deer on the spot I have ever seen, there are many other good bullets out there, but dead is dead and you can not get deader.
As far as it goes I used XTP 250 gr for many years and never lost a deer but they ran 40 yds or so with the same hit that a 250 Gold Dot drops them on the spot, I believe that's true of a lot of bullets with a good hit the difference is how far they run. As long as you don't use full metal jacket or hard cast they are for very big and dangerous game.